This page is kind of interesting. At least, to me, it’s very personal. It’s not based off any factual situation I’ve ever faced, but rather, a deep fear of mine. That one day, a friend will have just had it and tell me what a nuisance I am for my (sometimes irrational) neuroticism towards passing or how their life could’ve been more normal if I was. Again, I’ve never had it said to me, but I do occasionally worry that at least a few of my friends have thought it.
I changed the dialogue no less than four-hundred times in the past month since I drew this. It’s infinitely better than how it started, by still have very mixed feelings about it. As always, I welcome any thoughts.
I think this is the first time I've found Gavin's being a douche slightly understandable.
I mean sure, it's still mean, but Rain doesn't really have to be THIS fussy, especially when Gavin's giving her a place to stay.
Heck, since Gavin already knows, she doesn't really have to fuss at all.
Also, that "I really prefer nightgowns" might come back to haunt Rain if she ever stays at Gavin's again. He might just give her the thing his mum offered next time lol.
Gah, I keep starting to like Gavin and then he goes and sticks his foot in his mouth again. The guy honestly does seem to mean well, he just really kind of sucks at communicating.
Having a transgender daughter, I can relate to the "I'm still me" comment. Her friend from next door asked her why her name was different after she socially transitioned, and said that he wished that my daughter was still "K". Her reply? "I'm still me, just with a new name. You're still my best friend." Not too bad a response for a first grader. Her friend said "Ok, as long as we're still friends." :)
I understand her wish for a nightgown to sleep. I always found sleeping in pajamas with pants uncomfortable.
And I'll actually give this one to Gavin. Rain is complaining a bit too much. Gain is doing his best to make her comfortable, didn't even offer her the nighty momma wanted her to wear.
Sometimes a negative status report is just a negative status report, not a complaint. When I'm talking to a good friend and they ask me how I'm doing, if I'm not doing OK, I'm going to tell them so. It doesn't mean that I want them to fix it or they did something wrong. I'm just being honest with them.
As an adult, I give these statements plenty of disclaimers. "I understand you've done the best you can and I'm not complaining. But" or something similar. Not that I'll claim they did their best if they didn't, that's just a suggestion for what I'd say in Rain's circumstances.
Even with those disclaimers, there are people who take these statements as personal criticisms. But if someone who is not and has never been one of my coworkers asks me how I'm doing, and I reply, "My coworkers have been driving me crazy today. It's not your fault, but I'm just feeling frustrated right now," and they take offense to that... I'm not sure how I can handle considering them a close friend.
My best friends don't require the disclaimers. If I'm having a bad day, so bad I'm not up for giving the disclaimers I normally do, and one of my best friends asks me how I'm doing, I might have the exchange with them:
"I feel like shit."
"I thought so. You look like shit. Anything I can do to help?"
rain's having an unplanned sleepover, and hasn't got the preperation routine or familiar items to help her through. even though it's not as serious as gavin made it sound, it's still a massive deal for rain.
I mean sure, it's still mean, but Rain doesn't really have to be THIS fussy, especially when Gavin's giving her a place to stay.
Heck, since Gavin already knows, she doesn't really have to fuss at all.
Also, that "I really prefer nightgowns" might come back to haunt Rain if she ever stays at Gavin's again. He might just give her the thing his mum offered next time lol.
And I'll actually give this one to Gavin. Rain is complaining a bit too much. Gain is doing his best to make her comfortable, didn't even offer her the nighty momma wanted her to wear.
As an adult, I give these statements plenty of disclaimers. "I understand you've done the best you can and I'm not complaining. But" or something similar. Not that I'll claim they did their best if they didn't, that's just a suggestion for what I'd say in Rain's circumstances.
Even with those disclaimers, there are people who take these statements as personal criticisms. But if someone who is not and has never been one of my coworkers asks me how I'm doing, and I reply, "My coworkers have been driving me crazy today. It's not your fault, but I'm just feeling frustrated right now," and they take offense to that... I'm not sure how I can handle considering them a close friend.
My best friends don't require the disclaimers. If I'm having a bad day, so bad I'm not up for giving the disclaimers I normally do, and one of my best friends asks me how I'm doing, I might have the exchange with them:
"I feel like shit."
"I thought so. You look like shit. Anything I can do to help?"
This is why they're in the best friend category.
rain's having an unplanned sleepover, and hasn't got the preperation routine or familiar items to help her through. even though it's not as serious as gavin made it sound, it's still a massive deal for rain.
and gavin did ask!