Jokes aside, this is a pretty big development for them. Maybe they're setting themselves up for more hurt and failure. Or maybe things will be better in a different kind of setting where they can get used to each other at their own pace. Either way, I guess they're gonna give it one more shot?
Thoughts? Is this just what they needed or a disaster waiting to happen?
YAY FRIENDSHIP-LOVE-HAPPINESS-WHATEVERTHEYWANT! \o/
Err, Ky, "You're different. Special, even." is supposed to be said to a video game silent protagonist/any Mary Sue lead from any work of fiction. Drew is just your goofy not-boyfriend! è_é
Now that is a genuine and honest answer. I suspect there will still be more mistakes along the line - people are good at screwing up, even with the best intent in the world. But as long as that good intention is there, those screw ups happen less often and good can flourish in between.
And I'm not even sure his intentions can be described as "the best." I mean, his line could easily be construed as being more focused on his own social fears than on a desire to actually make Ky feel safer.
It could be - cis people can be as socially anxious as trans people, depending on their personal histories and whether they have other stuff going on as well.
For a long time, I used to always assume the worst about people in the belief it would keep me safe and that I'd never be disappointed. I found it a miserable way to live; always waiting for the Sword of Damocles to drop rather than enjoying the food at the feast.
I'm a bit bothered by the line "Something where we won't run into anyone else."
He just apologized for saying something that shows that he's embarrassed to be seen with her in public... and now he's seems to be implying that it would be better to pursue their relationship in private.
Perhaps it's just my own triggers, but this sounds like an eventual train wreck. What future do they have if he's afraid to be seen in public with her?
This may be a bad example but as an actor you don't go on stage after reading the script once, you practice for hours or else you will screw up, now this might just be my interpretation but I feel that this isn't a permanent situation but a temporary one until they get used to each other so they won't screw up and hurt the others feeling
Or I could be wrong but that's what I think
Yup, Drew is dropping a trail of red flags. He's still prioritizing his own closet over Ky's identity, is still requiring Ky to be the bigger person and forgive his consistently minimizing Ky's identity, is still not promising any genuine change or showing much recognition of how badly he's fucked up, putting on equal footing his own baggage.
He's not examining his privilege and Ky is falling into a trap of NRE and their own willingness to settle for less than human treatment because they believe that since Drew is the first to reciprocate or initiate romantic feelings, that that is all the options they will ever have.
And opening that relationship with that settling, with that self-dismissal and not having a partner pushing back against it means that at best this will be a relationship that reinforces the notion to Ky that they have to settle for love. At worst, it means having their identity consistently being treated as secondary to the needs of his comfort level and closet.
Honestly, I'd rather see Ky with someone who can see how awesome they are from the outset rather than someone who needs all the education but refuses to do any of it himself.
Definitely agreeing here. Drew is prioritising his own comfort over Ky/lie's identity and well-being. Ky/lie meanwhile seems to be going after the first person they know of to possibly like them back, to the point of setting their self-value aside. Realistically, a relationship like this is unlikely to work out well. I just hope Ky/lie can pick themself up afterwards.
Kyvin is OTP, Kyvin is bae. Most internet sentence I've penned in a good long while. One possibility: Ky and Drew don't work out, Ky moves on to Gavin, Drew moves on to Rudy (who could also use some love). Let it be so.
Ky really seems to have found someone they can bond with after all, I really hope Drew will be able to learn keeping himself within reason for the sake of their beautifully developing friendship.
Err, Ky, "You're different. Special, even." is supposed to be said to a video game silent protagonist/any Mary Sue lead from any work of fiction. Drew is just your goofy not-boyfriend! è_é
Now that is a genuine and honest answer. I suspect there will still be more mistakes along the line - people are good at screwing up, even with the best intent in the world. But as long as that good intention is there, those screw ups happen less often and good can flourish in between.
For a long time, I used to always assume the worst about people in the belief it would keep me safe and that I'd never be disappointed. I found it a miserable way to live; always waiting for the Sword of Damocles to drop rather than enjoying the food at the feast.
Sorry about that, the bugger was desperate.
Anyway, I hope things can work out for these two. Because I do actually kinda ship it
He just apologized for saying something that shows that he's embarrassed to be seen with her in public... and now he's seems to be implying that it would be better to pursue their relationship in private.
Perhaps it's just my own triggers, but this sounds like an eventual train wreck. What future do they have if he's afraid to be seen in public with her?
Or I could be wrong but that's what I think
He's not examining his privilege and Ky is falling into a trap of NRE and their own willingness to settle for less than human treatment because they believe that since Drew is the first to reciprocate or initiate romantic feelings, that that is all the options they will ever have.
And opening that relationship with that settling, with that self-dismissal and not having a partner pushing back against it means that at best this will be a relationship that reinforces the notion to Ky that they have to settle for love. At worst, it means having their identity consistently being treated as secondary to the needs of his comfort level and closet.
Honestly, I'd rather see Ky with someone who can see how awesome they are from the outset rather than someone who needs all the education but refuses to do any of it himself.