As a youngest sibling by a lot myself, I can vouch that it's possible to not really know your brothers or sisters well if the age gap is wide enough. It probably didn't help that growing up, I was very super secretive and distant so my family wouldn't catch on to my gender dysphoria (kinda like how Rain grew up).
Honestly though, since coming out to them last year, I don't think we've ever been closer. But that's me.
Also, I've said this before, but I'm trying to raise money for SRS, and I'm still struggling with it. If you can help, it would be most welcome. If not, don’t worry about it. I totally understand (you don't need to feel bad or apologize if you can’t).
Oh! I totally understand Rain here. My oldest brother is nice and all, but it's kind of awkward whenever I see him since he's almost 20 years older than me and when I was little, he lived in a dorm for college and then he moved to California (I live in Massachusetts so I'm sure you can imagine how little we get to see each other) and I'm really shy so we usually don't have much to talk about... But at least he's not like Rain's siblings (or at least what we've seen of them)!
@Jocelyn well my skreb lordish friend it seems you have become very talented in the way of making me like emily a whole ton (just for the record i think your like the coolect (skrebiest) person in the world)
@Jocelyn the word skreb actually doesnt mean anything since to my knowledge it doesnt exist as a word but i use it to describe most things i dont have words for in short sense im calling you a super coolio person
@Zoey you still havent old me why it is now impossible for us to be friends give me my answer and thats all it will really take to fix a few broken peices
I think it depends on whether the family get along more than the age gap. I have a brother 11 years older than me (27 vs. 16), he can be irritating as hell but we still get along and know each other well. Same with my sisters in their twenties, and parents in their sixties.
It must be terrible for those with families that are judgmental and distant. You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.
My sister is 10 years older than me and she moved out about three years ago, but when I was little I didn't really hang out with her or anything. I'm close with her, but not in a way that I could talk to her about anything. The only people I can talk to about anything are school friends. Anyways, her and my niece are currently living with me and my parents, so I see them all the time now. I'm still not completely comfortable with her though... :/
I'm older than my half-siblings by quite a lot, but unfortunately, I've cut off contact with that side of the family. I can't talk to my dad. He's left scars in my heart that he's too stubborn to help heal. I don't like him at all. I'm kind of sad, since I don't know my half-sister at all, and barely know my half-brother.
Sometimes I wonder how they see me, whether I'm a distant big sister or brother to them, or if I'm not in their minds at all. *sigh*
I can relate to rain on this a little. I have two older sister and the younger of the two was 13 when i was born and the other was 15. The older one now lives in Korea as a teacher since she was 25 and I only see her for a few days every couple years.
Yup, I know this all too well, myself. I didn't get to really know my sister until I helped her move from one apartment to another. Lucky for me, we became better friends because of it.
As for my brother, I know mostly negatives about him. He's conservative, and a redneck. But so far, he hasn't shown any hatred to me now that I've let him know I am a Transwoman. Though to be honest, it's only been a couple weeks.
I don't know what "skreb" means, but somehow it doesn't sound like a nice word... >_>
It must be terrible for those with families that are judgmental and distant. You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.
Sometimes I wonder how they see me, whether I'm a distant big sister or brother to them, or if I'm not in their minds at all. *sigh*
As for my brother, I know mostly negatives about him. He's conservative, and a redneck. But so far, he hasn't shown any hatred to me now that I've let him know I am a Transwoman. Though to be honest, it's only been a couple weeks.