The bit with the waiter at the end was tacked on kinda last minute. I really didn't want the story to get too heavy this early in the chapter, so I just needed something to lighten the mood a little after Maria's mini speech on the second page. Stays relevant too. XD
Still, the serious stuff on the second page just begs reader input. So I'd love to hear your thoughts on either or both girls' opinions. To any readers who may be or have been (or would like to be) in same-sex relationships, are you very open about it when in public, or do you prefer to keep things quiet?
I have been in a couple same sex relationships. Both times, my girlfriend and I were open about it. My first girlfriend, and two of my female friends who are dating, all came out at the sane time. Well actually people just figured it out. But I've been retty open both times-holding hands, hugging, amd just being together.
Sadly, that is exactly how people are- I read somewhere that you're judged an average of 7 times an hour, be it looks, social status, or anything else. Now, my only relationships have been with the opposite sex- always fall for straight guys.... However, I can safely say that I would treat the relationship the same way. I wouldn't outright say it, but I would be romantic/lovey-dovey when the time seemed appropriate. "To hell with those who don't approve" was my mantra.
Sometimes all you can do is tilt at windmills. There is nothing shameful in picking your battles. This will be easier once Rudy has graduated (assuming he's 18). I also find that type of invisibility in a crowd comforting.
While Chanel is well meaning, not all judgements are created equal.
I'd want to act as naturally with another man as I have with a woman. I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable enough, as I tend to get anxious about things like that. I don't know if I'll ever find out though.
The next time I'm in an active same-sex relationship, I want to be really open about it. I'm not ashamed, and if I should be afraid of being with the one I love then I'm in the wrong place to begin with :P I've been in too many situations in the past where I couldn't be open about it. I don't want to hide anymore.
But... maybe I should work on not hiding my trans status, too o_o
This is actually a description of how I feel about being trans. I've used almost exactly Maria's words to describe my feelings: wishing that I lived in a world where I could be open about who I am without losing my family.
But since we don't live there, yet, I'm okay with people not seeing it.
I can sympathize. I never had as extreme a problem as Maria does with her parents, but my grandparents are really religious (My grandfather is a well loved pastor in his area) and so my step dad was too. When I started dating girls in high school, it wasn't anathema, but it was not accepted in my house. Not with him. To the point he refused to acknowledge my girlfriends and would push me to date guys, in front of them.
School...was hard. I lost a lot of my girlfriends (of the platonic kind) when I started dating a girl openly. Just holding her hand made them think I was going to attack them at the next girl's night or in the locker room before gym class. I went from having lots of friends who were girls to well...my girlfriend. Things never really improved until I started hanging out with other people who were open about it all. Either other bisexuals, or lesbians, or gays. The straight population that I lived with just didn't trust me not to randomly rape them if they so much as looked at me. It made it hard to stay open about my love for my girlfriend.
I'm glad to see Maria and Chanel trying so hard to make it work, even with the odds stacked against them. I hope these two stick it out. I really do. They seem to genuinely care for each other.
The timing of this page is somewhat apt, albeit it in a very unpleasant way. Texas is trying to push through legislation for reparative or conversion therapy. Fortunately the medical community is resisting it and its been banned by the BACP in the UK.
I'm currently in a situation where my SO is male (agender really, but if hes a He then there's not much else the cissy's can grasp is there?) And I ditched a lot of people for their attitudes towards me. Approximately half of them, to be exact. I found a lot of new friendships as a result and while I have looked back, I'm very grateful to finally have grown as a person. Luke is very good for me, I've been able to be more true to me and I've fought hard for what we are.
I wasn't quite sure of Maria's outfit, the previous page, but seeing it here, it is adorable itself.
I haven't quite gotten the hang of just letting sleeves hang off my shoulders. I've tried, and am getting better at it, but I still have to fight a subconscious itch to pull them up.
The waiter just sounds a bit inconsiderate, maybe just trying to make a funny. I won't judge him too harshly for it. :p
6 years late, but I'm in a same-sex (kinda) relationship. If me and my girlfriend ever get to leave the house again, I imagine we would be very open about the fact that we're a couple.
(Also, I say "kinda" because I'm genderfluid)
maybe it´s just because i have context, but my gaydar is off the charts looking at the bottom of the first page. so no, they don´t blend that well, imo
While Chanel is well meaning, not all judgements are created equal.
I'd want to act as naturally with another man as I have with a woman. I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable enough, as I tend to get anxious about things like that. I don't know if I'll ever find out though.
But... maybe I should work on not hiding my trans status, too o_o
But since we don't live there, yet, I'm okay with people not seeing it.
School...was hard. I lost a lot of my girlfriends (of the platonic kind) when I started dating a girl openly. Just holding her hand made them think I was going to attack them at the next girl's night or in the locker room before gym class. I went from having lots of friends who were girls to well...my girlfriend. Things never really improved until I started hanging out with other people who were open about it all. Either other bisexuals, or lesbians, or gays. The straight population that I lived with just didn't trust me not to randomly rape them if they so much as looked at me. It made it hard to stay open about my love for my girlfriend.
I'm glad to see Maria and Chanel trying so hard to make it work, even with the odds stacked against them. I hope these two stick it out. I really do. They seem to genuinely care for each other.
Also, has it ever been established exactly where in America the story takes place?
I haven't quite gotten the hang of just letting sleeves hang off my shoulders. I've tried, and am getting better at it, but I still have to fight a subconscious itch to pull them up.
The waiter just sounds a bit inconsiderate, maybe just trying to make a funny. I won't judge him too harshly for it. :p
(Also, I say "kinda" because I'm genderfluid)