Just because I've had school experiences that vary wildly from other people's, I'm going focus on Winter Break here for a moment. I mean, I don't know if it's something every student has, or if it was just something I had. For me, in both my private and public school experience, there is a week long vacation that occurs sometime in the middle of February. Something, I guess, to break up the school year between Christmas vacation and Spring Break. Being February in canon right now, I felt it was something that should really be brought up. If I'm just stating the obvious here, please ignore this part of the blurb. But I just wanted to make sure we're on the same page.
As for the actual content of the page, I don't think I blame Rain for feeling the way she does either way. How about you? In her position, would you want to attempt to clear things up with them in the hopes that they can understand someday, or would you sever ties to avoid being hurt again... and potentially again?
Also, next update is the last of this chapter. And then I'm just going to take a short one week hiatus and jump right back in on Friday, April 4th. This wasn't originally something I wanted to do, but I just need a little break after all the crazy hard work I've been doing with Volume 2.
[EDIT] - Due to some unfortunate circumstances involving a reader being harassed, I will be personally moderating comments before they can go up. I'd rather not have this be a permanent thing, but it's my wish for all of my readers to be able to feel comfortable and as though they can be themselves anywhere my comic is. I really want it to be a safe zone. As such, I will not tolerate anyone harassing my friends and readers like that here.
Also, don't forget to check out my interview with Claire Parker, alongside Closetspace's Jenn Dolari (now available at your own leisure) if you missed it!
http://www.mixcloud.com/Time4T/time-4-t-16th-march-2014/
Also also, with Winter [finally] coming to a close, the RainComicStore on Etsy is taking a hiatus from selling scarves. However, my wife has taken up a new craft: beading. And she's using that talent to make magnets and pins in a variety of forms. Do check it out. ^_^
https://www.etsy.com/shop/RainComicStore
I would try to work things out, but I'm stubborn...the number of times I've giving my father another chance after he and my stepmother broke my heart is a lot. I'm not on speaking terms with him now. He doesn't even know I'm trans... and quite frankly he doesn't deserve to know the real me he was never a real dad and doesn't have the decency to even call once in almost 2 years....
I'm sorry I just had to get that out I've been having an internaly emotional day and needed to vent.
If I was in Rain's position and had Aiken for a brother . . . I'd give him another shot. Their main disagreement is with Rain being transgender. If he's willing to sit down and actually listen, then I'd be willing to sit down and talk.
However, irl, I have a brother who was emotionally abusive to me for most of my life and now that I've completely cut myself off from him he's trying to 'reconcile' with me . . . so . . . yeah. I'm not sure if that leaves me biased in some way or not.
Knowing me i'd want to give them a another shot too. I think Rain will choose to go with them. Really curious how being with them with no Fara will go. Hopefully well.
I've been in this situation for some time now, sort of. I'm not really on speaking terms with my parents because they were the most hurtful when I came out... My sisters now live in different parts of the country, and the two chances my older sister said she wanted to meet up with me, she didn't :( I still miss them and wish we could talk. They haven't even seen me like this, and it's been two years...
In Rain's circumstances? I say go for it. She's got a strong support network behind her in case she can't handle it, and her brother is reaching out to her. It would be best to see if they could resolve this and be family again :)
I've only ever had winter break -- 2-3 weeks, or maybe a month in college -- and spring break, a week in march or maybe april. Then the long summer, of course. (US public schools.)
I would give them another chance. If they would be willing to sit and listen. Though if they screwed up the second chance, I would probably never give a third unless they were really nice and begging for it.
By the way I just caught up with the comic after reading for two days non stop. This is a wonderful thing you have going here. It has brought much insight into my life.
I have not always been happy with my birth gender (I am a guy), I don't know if I would go far enough as to change it because I believe I would be an outcast. I have been able to consider it more after reading this comic, so thank you, thanks for writing this amazing work. By the way my name is actually Navar but if I was a girl it would be Julia.
"I have not always been happy with my birth gender (I am a guy), I don't know if I would go far enough as to change it because I believe I would be an outcast"
Personal opinion, I know, but the thing about being transgender is that you are not doing this for anybody, but yourself. Anybody who disagrees doesn't matter and (unfortunately) sometimes that includes your friends and family.
I understand what you are saying. Of course I would change it, but I am really afraid of people. I have talked about this with someone before and they didn't respond well. In my family we are the religious type, so it is hard to be unaccepted by your parents.
Nobody is mocking you. I was just offering my perspective on the issue. :(
What I was saying was:"don't let others control your life". It's fine if you don't come out, because you don't want to. It sucks, however, if you don't come out, because others don't want you to. Again, personal opinion.
Good luck with coming out. My suggestion is to come out to the family member you hope will love you the most, no matter what you do. I would hope that this is your mother or close sibling.
But there is never a guarantee. I've heard of close love ones completely abandoning their trans-family member, and the opposite. People you would have expected to flee into the night giving the most support.
So no matter what, it literally is a crap shoot, with equal odds for and against you.
My suggestion, prepare for the worse, and enjoy the best.
I'm sorry I just had to get that out I've been having an internaly emotional day and needed to vent.
However, irl, I have a brother who was emotionally abusive to me for most of my life and now that I've completely cut myself off from him he's trying to 'reconcile' with me . . . so . . . yeah. I'm not sure if that leaves me biased in some way or not.
The unknown factor for her would be Kellen. That's the part I'd personally be scared about - she has no idea how her older sister will react at all.
In Rain's circumstances? I say go for it. She's got a strong support network behind her in case she can't handle it, and her brother is reaching out to her. It would be best to see if they could resolve this and be family again :)
By the way I just caught up with the comic after reading for two days non stop. This is a wonderful thing you have going here. It has brought much insight into my life.
I have not always been happy with my birth gender (I am a guy), I don't know if I would go far enough as to change it because I believe I would be an outcast. I have been able to consider it more after reading this comic, so thank you, thanks for writing this amazing work. By the way my name is actually Navar but if I was a girl it would be Julia.
Personal opinion, I know, but the thing about being transgender is that you are not doing this for anybody, but yourself. Anybody who disagrees doesn't matter and (unfortunately) sometimes that includes your friends and family.
-Bernard Baruch
What I was saying was:"don't let others control your life". It's fine if you don't come out, because you don't want to. It sucks, however, if you don't come out, because others don't want you to. Again, personal opinion.
But there is never a guarantee. I've heard of close love ones completely abandoning their trans-family member, and the opposite. People you would have expected to flee into the night giving the most support.
So no matter what, it literally is a crap shoot, with equal odds for and against you.
My suggestion, prepare for the worse, and enjoy the best.