Also, I've said this before, but I'm trying to raise money for SRS, and I'm still struggling with it. If you can help, it would be most welcome. If not, don’t worry about it. I totally understand (you don't need to feel bad or apologize if you can’t).
I'd rather take the "no". That way, I'm not left hanging.
I feel like Ana has accidentally planted a seed of false hope in Gavin. Probably not her intent, but that's why it's generally better to just say "No" rather than a "I dunno, maybe someday but not now".
I hate how the term 'friendzone' has become a bad thing. Some of the best relationships I've seen came out of friendship! I'm siding with Ana on this one.
The term 'friendzone' has always been bad. But it's not this. Ana is refusing to decide until she knows people. That's very different from saying, "I could never date you because I like you too much!" Which is what friendzone is. I think what people really mean when they friendzone someone is, "I know I'm a horrible person and if you really got to know me, you wouldn't like me and I can't risk losing you like that." At least, when they're being honest about it. I've also seen women using that line with guys they wanted to have nothing to do with, because they were pretty sure the creep wouldn't stick around once he was clearly not going to get anywhere.
And as far as people actually doing as Ana indicated? I've done this. I was friends with my wife for over six years before we started dating.
I am with Nightsky on this one. I do not like the term "friendzone" either. It leaves a sour taste in my mouth. We need a new term that implies "hey we are just friends and that is awesome because friends are awesome" without any of that icky entitlement being attached.
Am I the only one who immediately thought demisexual/demiromantic reading Ana's lines? Of course, like Gavin said, that's pretty reasonable, so I might be overthinking it a bit.
Also, I'm agreeing with everyone else about the friend-zone thing.
Also-also, obligatory link whenever "friendzone" is mentioned: http://sinfest.net/archive_page.php?comicID=4371
The way I see it, all Ana said is that she in not interested in dating someone she doesn't know. And that people who confess to her when _they_ don't even know her creep her out.
Gavin does have better chance that people who already made bad impression. Its just not that much higher than people who never spoke to her.
I think being friendzoned implies that the person who is putting you in one already knows you are not romantic material for them.
And Ana does seems to want to know Gavin better.
I feel like Ana has accidentally planted a seed of false hope in Gavin. Probably not her intent, but that's why it's generally better to just say "No" rather than a "I dunno, maybe someday but not now".
Hope this works out for Gavin, though. He's been striking out for most of the comic.
And as far as people actually doing as Ana indicated? I've done this. I was friends with my wife for over six years before we started dating.
and yeah, usually it drives guys away pretty immediately :P lol ... which is fine, i guess.
ideally, i'd meet someone at work or hobbies, get to know them as friend over a long period of time... then at some point... things change...
well, isn't reality, but a girl can dream, right? :)
Also, I'm agreeing with everyone else about the friend-zone thing.
Also-also, obligatory link whenever "friendzone" is mentioned: http://sinfest.net/archive_page.php?comicID=4371
Gavin does have better chance that people who already made bad impression. Its just not that much higher than people who never spoke to her.
I think being friendzoned implies that the person who is putting you in one already knows you are not romantic material for them.
And Ana does seems to want to know Gavin better.
Yeah yeah Gavin.