Comic 445 - Carmen

26th Oct 2013, 7:31 PM in Ch. 17: Journey of 1,000 Miles
Average Rating: 5 (10 votes)
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Jocelyn 26th Oct 2013, 7:31 PM edit delete
In case it wasn’t clear, the idea is the Carmen is being referred to her by her birth name because it’s the name she used when signing up for the place. Surely, after this first visit for her, she might use her chosen name a bit more passionately. ^_^ And I urge everyone to follow Jessica’s advice. They’re words I live by personally, and I think it’s totally worth passing on.

This interaction with little Carmen allowed me to cover some important things I wanted to discuss, and possibly offered a bit of development for Rain herself. Sadly, we won’t very likely be seeing much more of her.

At least, not in this story… ;)

Rain, all characters and all other aspects of the story are copyright material belonging to me.

Also, I'm saving for SRS, and to be perfectly honest, I could use your help! If you can, great. If not, don’t worry about it. I totally understand (you don't need to feel bad or apologize if you can’t).
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j-eagle12212012 26th Oct 2013, 7:58 PM edit delete reply
Haveing not yet started hormones(soon,very soon) I have to constantly correct my mom when she uses my birth name (I go by Jamie now, I was Justin) which upsets me. my mom is very supportive she just forgets and insits it takes some getting used to and I sometimes don't bother correcting her because I feel like I'm a broken record. Hopefuly I won't have to correct as much once I start passing.
Jocelyn 26th Oct 2013, 8:36 PM edit delete reply

Well, I'm an idiot. Took me about an hour before I realized it, but I totally posted on the wrong day. I've been a little under the weather the past couple days (pretty much sleeping or Pokemoning the whole time), so I may have completely lost track of what day it is.

Whatever the case may be. The page has been up for an hour already. I'm not yanking it on you all at this point. I guess just consider this a freebie. ^^;
tryplot 27th Oct 2013, 11:59 AM edit delete reply
I've been reading this for a while, and I'm not usually one to comment (I think this is my first time commenting here) but I need to know, which version of pokemon?
Kyla 27th Oct 2013, 12:11 AM edit delete reply
Are you playing Pokemon Y/X ? My wife put a 3Ds-XL and Pokemon Y in layaway for me but i will not get it till next month ='(
Kyla 27th Oct 2013, 12:59 AM edit delete reply
To add to the conversation, I changed my name like 2 years ago and i still have problems with people calling me my old name. My Mom is the worst... But i have a lot of problems with my mom ='/
Noelle 27th Oct 2013, 1:47 AM edit delete reply
Just on the subject... I've recently solidified what I'd like my new name to be, and I'm looking forward to when I can convince my parents to start using it. I've yet to come out to my dad, though my mum and sister are in on my little secret.

My mum has been passive-aggressively trying to make me "see sense and be a boy", but today, she said to my dad (who walked into the room naked for no apparent reason) "THERE ARE LADIES PRESENT". I don't know if it was a slip of the tongue, but it made me feel better :).
Jen Done (Tacopius) 27th Oct 2013, 1:49 AM edit delete reply
I recently had my name legally changed, so I rarely encounter my old name these days. "Peter" doesn't suit a girl like me at all :P Although it was amusing when a caller from a pro-life group I didn't recognize asked for Peter (I guess they had me on a calling list from back when I was a Catholic schoolboy :P ), and I replied in my girl voice "Yep! That's me! :D " Confuses the hell out of them, it does lol
Jen Done (Tacopius) 27th Oct 2013, 2:04 AM edit delete reply
Also I honestly don't know what my parents call me... Probably by my old name... I think in the few cases that we speak to one another they just try to be nice and play along with something they think is crazy :( For that reason I'm kind of glad to be estranged...
Kimidori 27th Oct 2013, 4:12 AM edit delete reply
Therapy, huh?

I met a fellow trans* person today. He told me about a place that can help recommend a therapist. It looks more like an LGBT organization than a place for therapy, but I may get something about it!
Some Ed 14th Jun 2017, 4:21 PM edit delete reply
Many LGBT* organizations can recommend LGBT* friendly therapists. As important as therapy is to this community and as crappy as therapists who aren't LGBT* friendly can be for LGBT* people (even if they're not going for LGBT* reasons), that is frequently even on their list of core services. They don't do the therapy themselves. They just track who does, based on community member feedback.

I'm sure someone gave an answer via PM by now, but there should be a public response when these questions come up. Also, need to comment to vote. :)
jennifer 7th Dec 2014, 5:38 PM edit delete reply
Hi, um. I'm not sure how to say this, or if you even check the comments on pages this far back, but I just want you to know that it was reading this particular page way back in March or something that gave me the courage and confidence to actually, really start standing up for my own identity and insist that places like my psychiatrist's office and endocrinologist use my real name, not my legal one. When Jessica says those words to Carmen it honestly felt like she was speaking directly through the fourth wall to me.

It was the confidence I got from those words that helped me to stay strong and refuse to compromise who I am. I'm out now, I've been on hormones 9 months, I do my own makeup and rarely get misgendered outside of home. And I just really wanted to thank you for helping give me that little push right when I needed it.

So, thank you.
Wolfsblood 25th Aug 2015, 10:46 AM edit delete reply
wow, the name thing was surprisingly triggery for me, maybe because I’ve recently chosen a new name for myself that I think will be what i will be called in the (hopefully) near future. I actually got tears in my eyes when Jessica told Carmen to stand up for her name. <3
Marina 3rd May 2019, 4:02 AM edit delete reply
It's funny, I'm just discovering this comic now in 2019, and yesterday I made the decision to present female full time in public rather than stealth and hide it. And then I come to this page with Jessica giving exactly that advice. I'm gonna own it.

Hello world, I'm Samantha. Nice to meet you!
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