Comic 158 - Transgender Day of Remembrance

20th Nov 2011, 1:06 AM in Special
Transgender Day of Remembrance
Average Rating: 5 (13 votes)
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Jocelyn 20th Nov 2011, 1:06 AM edit delete
Depicted in the piece above is a story I made up. Unfortunately, it is not at all fictional. Stories like this happen in real life, and they happen FAR too often. Statistically speaking, a transgendered person is murdered every month.

This piece is dedicated to the all transgendered people who have been murdered simply for trying to themselves. They are not trying to hurt anyone. They simply wish to pursue happiness for themselves; a right that ALL humans are entitled to. So, why does this keep happening? Why is Alicia's fictional story so heartrendingly real?

Today is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. I ask you to at least take a moment out of your day to just reflect on this... or if you know someone (besides me) who is transgendered, just give them a hug... or if you ARE transgendered, just be strong and don't be afraid of who you are.

(Also, I realize this is in no way related specifically to Rain's story, but obviously, it is kind of an extremely relevant theme. So I wanted to post this here too. Awareness doesn't come if people are quiet after all.)
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DominoJaye 20th Nov 2011, 5:34 AM edit delete reply much as I want to go along with this comic, I just can't.

The only (probably more realistic for 'ethnic' situations) thought that goes through my mind is the parent(s) thinking "If only they didn't insist on trying to be a girl/boy, this wouldn't have happened." and then blame the victim.

I wish that wasn't how I felt...but it is.
...I might've been one of those statistics too, but for some damn reason I lived through 3 overdoses in 3 years like I was Keith Richards or something... >:(

*sigh* I'm sorry, I'm just venting or something.

I really appreciate that you're still plugging away at this, Jocelyn. Keep up the good work.
Hooman Bean 11th Jan 2021, 6:14 PM edit delete reply
Years to late, but one thing I've learned, is it's okay to vent or rant. I hope you're still alive. Please, remember that you are loved. This goes for anyone else reading this. If you don't believe me, that's okay. But even though I don't know you, I'll love you, and that makes you loved. And now I'm ranting, but that's okay. If you need to talk, talk. Someone will be there for you.
Dragonrider 20th Nov 2011, 3:10 PM edit delete reply
You have chosen as hard a subject to present as Sky has in Simply Sarah. The fact that all people are not from the same mold, not the same set of DNA patterns, not the same desires. I fully understand and shudder when I hear or read some loudmouth from the "religious reich" sounding about marriage is a man and a woman, a family etc, etc, etc barf... Love transcends Race, Creed, Gender and knows no limitations. Please keep up the good work.
LauraEss 23rd Nov 2011, 7:41 AM edit delete reply
I'd like to add a copy of this to The Transgender Day of Remembrance Webcomic Archive. I think I've asked you on Deviant Art as well, but it's been a l-o-n-g day.
KingRandom 9th Dec 2011, 7:19 AM edit delete reply
Butterfly 4th Dec 2013, 9:59 PM edit delete reply
Wish I knew another person like me to hug. So would the author accept a hug :)
Zi 27th Jul 2015, 6:27 PM edit delete reply
*hugs from a year and a half down the road.*

I was pretty lonely growing up too. I want to be there for anyone who feels that way, because I don't want anyone to feel the way I did.

Take care, Butterfly.
Aravore 6th Nov 2015, 4:52 AM edit delete reply
This is now a group hug
Synergiance 15th Feb 2016, 2:35 PM edit delete reply
at this point it's a pileup :)
Transginger 19th Mar 2016, 1:01 AM edit delete reply
Munki 22nd Jun 2017, 3:29 AM edit delete reply
Guest 1st Dec 2017, 11:15 AM edit delete reply
*-le hugssss-*
Emily 5th May 2018, 10:54 AM edit delete reply
A million hugs to all of you <3

(Hey, 2019 readers - keep it going, okay?)
ESTAZ 6th Oct 2018, 2:13 PM edit delete reply
Not quite 2019, but I thought I'd return a hug anyway. *hugs* Don't forget to pass it on!
Rain 11th Mar 2019, 4:35 AM edit delete reply
Ey y'all 2020 peeps better continue this hug *hug*
Honeywheeler 3rd May 2019, 1:55 PM edit delete reply
Here’s to more hugs
MissFortune713 23rd Jan 2020, 10:45 AM edit delete reply
Here in 2020!! Big big big hugs for everyone!!!
Johnnnie 22nd Sep 2020, 8:57 PM edit delete reply
Later in 2020. The whole world needs a hug pileup about now.
Share 27th Oct 2020, 5:05 AM edit delete reply
I need a hug pileup right now
no 5th Nov 2020, 7:03 PM edit delete reply
Hugs for all!!! And if you read this in 2021: keep it going.
Celeste 25th Dec 2020, 11:52 PM edit delete reply
Hug from the end of 2020. future peeps, hit this up.
Hooman Bean 11th Jan 2021, 6:15 PM edit delete reply
Hugs from the future peeps! I actually do really need a hug right now.
Cindy 19th Feb 2021, 10:04 PM edit delete reply
More... hugs...
Julia 7th Apr 2021, 4:14 PM edit delete reply
Hugg 🥺 I'm rereading this comic to distract myself from the end of my first relationship (of 18 months). It was great to see this chain
Amelia 14th Apr 2021, 1:26 PM edit delete reply
this has probably gone on too many comments, but who cares. HUGS. (hug rate measured as 1000 hugs a year.)

(although my personal rate of hugs is about 1 a decade I think. where i actually accept the hug/start it)
Alias 18th Sep 2021, 8:13 PM edit delete reply
more 2021 hugs!!!
Micah the Fish 3rd Dec 2021, 9:03 PM edit delete reply
More HUGS!
I have waited a full year to be able to respond to this thread, and it has been worthwhile.

To anyone and everyone reading this, I love you.
In the words on Hooman Bean, “even though I don't know you, I'll love you, and that makes you loved.”
Charlotte 19th Dec 2021, 5:58 PM edit delete reply
Here's yet another hug from a little over halfway through December of 2021! I love all of you <3
A cool pseudonym 16th Apr 2022, 5:12 PM edit delete reply
Hug from 2022.
Ruby 17th Apr 2022, 1:50 PM edit delete reply
Easter hugs!
Jae 20th Apr 2022, 9:39 PM edit delete reply
More and More Hugs! If you are reading this I hope you are doing ok. Our community transcends space and time and you are loved, don't you ever forget it. Keep going, you can do it. You are loved you are loved you are loved
Sergei 20th May 2022, 6:18 PM edit delete reply
*hugs* even though I might not be loved and supported, that doesn't mean others shouldn't be 😊
Moonglide 11th Jul 2022, 1:33 AM edit delete reply
...well that's a way to leave off a chain of hugs.

Katla 31st Aug 2014, 3:34 AM edit delete reply
Holy fuck, this one needs a trigger warning attached to it. Love the comic so far, been blitzing through the archives, but I couldn't even finish reading the first sentence of this one.
Tualha 14th May 2015, 6:39 PM edit delete reply
Way, way more than one a month. Last TDoR there were hundreds on the list.
Romy 5th Jan 2016, 10:19 AM edit delete reply


I've lost friends, too.
HinataTlaltelpa 1st Feb 2016, 11:48 PM edit delete reply
... sad
The T.C. 13th Aug 2016, 6:58 PM edit delete reply
Finding out it wasn't based on a real story was kinda like "SYKE jez kiddin' LOL"

Though the fact it was so believable is sad...
Some Ed 11th Jun 2017, 5:12 PM edit delete reply
Is it really that much different to read something like this which is based loosely on hundreds, possibly thousands of stories, than it is to read something that is a single true story?

This has happened. Jocelyn may not have personally heard of it, but, statistically speaking, I'm certain it's happened multiple times, at least if you don't care too much about the exact timing and the name. Because there's a lot of parents who reject their child when they come out, and there's a lot of transgender individuals who get killed. And it's my experience with parents that they're more likely to accept their child postmortem, regardless of what set them at odds.
Hooman Bean 11th Jan 2021, 6:18 PM edit delete reply
Unfortunately, you're probably right. I'm glad my parents accept me, and I know I'm lucky, but it's hard, because other people don't really understand, do they?
Lex-Kat 14th Nov 2016, 5:59 AM edit delete reply
*hugs* for any who need it.
Lex-Kat 16th Nov 2016, 1:36 AM edit delete reply
And Jocelyn, this is beautiful and heartrending.
MeWho 28th Sep 2018, 8:31 PM edit delete reply
I didn't notice the date when surfing up through the archive. But as a follower of Venus Envy when it got ME through hard times, I recognized it immediately. I've lost some friends along the way, and that is part of why I am where I am now. I have family, kids, my health. And balancing what sort of role is harder to 'play'. I totally appreciate 'Rain' ; it is a wonderful welcoming, and genuine space for many people. Myself, included, even if I didn't take the path I once felt compelled toward. Thank you for this site.
Guest 1st May 2019, 9:12 AM edit delete reply
Guest 23rd Apr 2020, 1:43 PM edit delete reply
so sad .-_-.
Jenifer Swinging 16th Apr 2022, 12:36 AM edit delete reply
Commenting on the day that this comic has ended, because I backtracked to figure something out. And then went foward...

For me it's been 10 years since I came out. And the line "If only we'd tried to understand. Maby we could've spent those ten years with her." It has been a incredibly lonely 10 years. But this last 9 months... I finally found in that time, Jenny.
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