Comic 1413 - Not Today

15th Sep 2021, 11:08 AM in Ch. 42 - One Day at a Time
Not Today
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Jocelyn 15th Sep 2021, 11:08 AM edit delete
Jocelyn
Let it be said, I do see the "polycule" chants that've been in the comments sections for the past few weeks. And I get y'all just want to see everyone happy. But please understand that's not the kind of option that's gonna work for everyone. It's not some easily applied cure-all for any love triangle. Like, we can't choose to be polyamorous any more than we can choose to be gay or trans. For instance, I love my poly friends, but I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable in a poly relationship myself.

I know this is going to be a bittersweet page for some. Again, I'm sure folks just want to see Allison happy. But remember, this doesn't mean she can't be. This doesn't mean she isn't. "Happy" means a lot of things to a lot of people, after all.

Besides, Allison's just learned her orientation like two minutes ago; maybe she should take a little more time to consider the implications of what that means for her before immediately confessing her feelings to someone actively in a relationship with a pregnant person.

There's kind of a lot to wade through with this arc, but I am leaving it there for now, and moving to another scene next time. I'm a little nervous some of you are going to be mad at me, but that doesn't mean I don't want to hear your thoughts. Let me know how you feel about all this. :)


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TK 15th Sep 2021, 11:55 AM edit delete reply
Well states Jocelyn. If I could've chose to be polyamorous, I probably would've back when something happened. But I can't chose to be anything, I'm monogamous. So it was better for me mentally and emotionally I just accept reality and let the person I loved be happy the way they wanted to. Because all I want is everyone else to be happy.
NotoriousJeandarme 15th Sep 2021, 12:15 PM edit delete reply
NotoriousJeandarme
The textheavy ones always seem to be the ones that hit the hardest.... yet another masterpiece in this great chapter. Thank you for making this chaotic morning more enjoyable, Lynn
Jasmine❤️ 15th Sep 2021, 12:17 PM edit delete reply
These last few pages hit pretty close to home for me. Recently, the person I've had a crush on for a while announced that they were dating another person I used to have a crush on. It's been a little heartbreaking and hard for me to accept. It's like, I want to talk to her about it, but it feels like the timing would be bad, and I don't want to risk disrupting their happiness. So I can strongly relate to what Allison is going through here.
Aemetta 15th Sep 2021, 12:32 PM edit delete reply
I'm going through the same thing as Allison right now. I used to think I was aromantic but I have a very close friendship with someone that's been developing this year and I caught feelings for them. It was actually these last few pages that prompted me to reflect on myself and learn that I'm demi.

What's sad about my situation is that my friend is happily married and leaving the sexual tension out of our relationship is what I feel allowed us to become so close. Most relationships in my past failed because they saw me as romantically available and their advances turned me off. It's not an easy position to be in.
Tokuben 15th Sep 2021, 12:52 PM edit delete reply
I won't be mad, all I really want to see is Rain and Emily being a family of three.
LiliannaRaine 15th Sep 2021, 1:22 PM edit delete reply
I am absolutely loving what you did with the rainbow, to kind of just make it more a keynote with Allison's words. And her making sure she doesn't want to just ruin it and gave some thoughts? The maturity after coming to that realization is just so damned wholesome, I can't. <3

This is about what I went through a few years ago, starting to learn things about myself. It made me way more introspective and lead me to figure out my demi-side. And how all of my relationships developed from friendships first. And to be figuring out how to be in a poly relationship and figuring it all out not long after realizing it was happening? She has more maturity than I feel a lot of us potentially had at her age.
Allison (not that one) 15th Sep 2021, 1:45 PM edit delete reply
There are many ways to "have a relationship", not just romantic or sexual.

There's "close friends" (BFF)

And there's "found family." That's one that appeals to me, since I have _never_ had what I think of as a "family-like" connection with anybody in my family of origin (especially not with my parents.) My ex (who I divorced because I couldn't deal with her issues) feels more like family than any of them.

It's a question of what you want out of the relationship.

Chrissy 15th Sep 2021, 2:09 PM edit delete reply
Very well stated. And I still get the feeling that Blair's polyamory was at least part of the issues with his romantic relationship with Emily. I don't want to see that issue pop up between Emily and Rain...
bgb16999 15th Sep 2021, 10:09 PM edit delete reply
bgb16999
Huh, I did not get that impression about Blair and Emily. Can you point out what in the text gave you that impression, or is it too much of a subconcious thing to explain?
TK-Dragon 16th Sep 2021, 3:23 AM edit delete reply
I don't remember exactly when, but there was a page that showed Emily and Blair at prom where he was dancing with I think Issac or someone else and Emily seeming kind of uncomfortable or jealous.
malkavcandy 17th Sep 2021, 2:46 PM edit delete reply
she's sad in that scene because blair had just broken up with her. she never had an issue with blair being polyam
TK-Dragon 29th Sep 2021, 1:05 PM edit delete reply
I dont recall them being broken up already at that moment. Because Emily only would've gotten in by going with Blair.
Jocelyn 29th Sep 2021, 2:59 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
They broke up at prom. She wouldn't necessarily have had trouble getting in.
https://rain.thecomicseries.com/comics/951/
Absynthe 15th Sep 2021, 7:34 PM edit delete reply
That was really well done, and I think your thoughts on the situation are 100% correct.
Sean McD 15th Sep 2021, 8:50 PM edit delete reply
I see the lowercase-r rain is ending. ;-)
b 15th Sep 2021, 10:05 PM edit delete reply
Allison Ky Chanel bestie trio is all I want
Celeste 15th Sep 2021, 10:12 PM edit delete reply
I understand what you're saying about ethical non-monogamy not being for everyone or a fix for every love triangle, and honestly, I think most people chanting polycule do, too. I think we're just a bit starved for positive rep. It's one thing to mention a character is/has been in a polyamorous relationship and another thing entirely for it to be explored in depth by the story's major characters. It can be additionally frustrating to see so many love triangles in media end in heartbreak and never polyamory. Not that that's the direction you should go here. I think people just want to see themselves in media they like, so try not to be too hard on the people hoping for it.
Jocelyn 15th Sep 2021, 10:34 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Celeste

Oh, for sure! I totally understand. I don't mean to say anyone is wrong for hoping to see positive reps of things they identify with. Lord knows I get bummed out too when I see another story where I think they're building up a character to be trans or ace... only for it revealed to just be a phase (or in the specific cases of asexuality, they're "cured by sex"). So, I do get it. And I hope my blurb, or the direction of this plotpoint wasn't too harsh or anything. I just didn't feel this was the specific place for it.

That said, I do hope to someday include a more prominent on-screen showing of a positive polycule in my writing. Maybe even from its formation. If anything, I guess I didn't know if I felt ready to write it in a way that would do it justice. So, like Allison, I won't rush. This way, I can do things right. ^_^
Celeste 16th Sep 2021, 9:44 AM edit delete reply
@Jocelyn

I think if you had said that you didn't feel ready to write such a relationship in a way that would do it justice in your blurb it wouldn't have hit me so negatively. From the narrative point of view you're right, it wouldn't really fit right now. I wasn't even hoping or expecting for it to become a polycule.

But as is, the blurb felt like you were specifically shutting down hopes for polyamorous representation with an excuse similar to, "not every character has to be trans." I cried over it for a while last night and again upon revisiting it this morning. Then again I'm pretty emotionally compromised lately, so I might be overreacting.
Jocelyn 16th Sep 2021, 10:14 AM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Celeste

I sincerely apologize for that. That truly was not the impression I wanted to get across. :(
bgb16999 16th Sep 2021, 2:30 PM edit delete reply
bgb16999
@Celeste A bit off topic, but have you read [url="https://www.weavecomic.com/"]The Weave[/url]? It's a fantasy webcomic (currently on hiatus) in which the three main characters are all poly.
Guest 16th Sep 2021, 3:30 PM edit delete reply
@bgb16999

I have not, but thanks for the recommendation
Absentia 17th Sep 2021, 1:46 AM edit delete reply
hey, look at htat guys. we're in the comic too! first panel!
Em 28th Oct 2021, 4:09 PM edit delete reply
Catching up after some time away from the comic. It makes me feel so immensely warm and emotional and just, SAFE, to see Allison's "no / not right now" accepted, nurtured even, instead of argued against. I got the arguing-against treatment, myself, and hoo boy did it ever leave scars.

Anyway. This story continues to be a soothing balm on wounds that I didn't even know were still hurting so much.
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