Comic 1393 - Moms

16th Jun 2021, 7:57 AM in Ch. 42 - One Day at a Time
Moms
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Jocelyn 16th Jun 2021, 7:57 AM edit delete
Jocelyn
The sky's getting darker, but the future's feeling brighter for these two. ^_^

Rain and Emily continue to share a moment, briefly highlighting their own insecurities. And then it's followed up by a cute fluffy moment asking the big questions. :P

Honestly though, while that last bit is played up as a cute humorous break in the tone, it's also kind of a legit question. I recall discussing this with my spouse in the short period when we were considering kids. We'd agreed we'd be "Mommy and Mama", but who knows if our hypothetical kid would've actually taken to it. So as a genuine question to parents with a same-sex partner (or to kids of same-sex parents), how is it addressed with you? What do you say?


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Anna Gartlin9 (AFC) 16th Jun 2021, 8:44 AM edit delete reply
They will both be great moms 😊
Anna Gartlin9 16th Jun 2021, 3:54 PM edit delete reply
Anna Gartlin9
First in comments yeaa
Julia_ 16th Jun 2021, 8:54 AM edit delete reply
Julia_
Uh oh we already know Rain ironically doesn't like rain 😅
chrystal_dark 16th Jun 2021, 9:05 AM edit delete reply
chrystal_dark
Mom and Mommy? Mom-A and Mom-B? Mom-Rain and Mom-Em? I once wrote a collaborative story on a roll-play site that kind-of addressed this issue. Two women, best friends, both married and divorced, both with a child each, realise that they should be a couple and start living together. Their kids came up with the above options in the story.
Larryn 16th Jun 2021, 9:14 AM edit delete reply
My wife is mom, and I’m mum. It was a real conversation with the kid, and there hasn’t been much confusion yet.
Alicja 16th Jun 2021, 9:31 AM edit delete reply
As a trans woman actively trying for a baby with my wife, I've had this thought more than once. I think it's going to be "Mom <name1>" and "Mom <name2>" in our case.
Azrael 16th Jun 2021, 10:33 AM edit delete reply
I mean it's used quite regularly already with multiple Aunts, Uncles, Grampas/mas etc... Uncle Christian, Uncle Peter, Uncle James. Why not Mom Emely and Mom Rain?
ever-present guest 16th Jun 2021, 9:32 AM edit delete reply
omg Ranily might be my favourite ship of all fiction after this page

Rain not knowing what to call herself and then going with "parent" is so sad and so true to life. I love that Emily immediately calls her a mom without making a big deal out of it.
Sanguich 16th Jun 2021, 9:44 AM edit delete reply
I think Mom and Mama is a relatively common solution, though it might be confusing to other people. Kinda like the problem I have with my step-grandmother who's always gone by Nanny. I love the sweet old lady, but I always have to explain it to anyone outside the family who thinks I'm talking about some kind of hired caregiver.
Tani 16th Jun 2021, 9:44 AM edit delete reply
Don't forget the horror of the "Go ask your mom" logic loop.
Vicky95 16th Jun 2021, 10:11 AM edit delete reply
So my partner who I've gotten hooked on this series btw. Made the comment that she wants to be called Mama and I take the name Mommy before she even read the bottom text. Found that funny.
LadyAnastasia 16th Jun 2021, 10:41 AM edit delete reply
LadyAnastasia
I'm really happy that Emily reassured Rain by saying "mom" instead of "parent". She's a good girlfriend <3
Allison (not that one) 16th Jun 2021, 10:47 AM edit delete reply
In our case, the cis (=bio-) mom is "Mon-1" and I'm "Mom-2." When there's no ambiguity (we're divorces), both of us are just "mom." And I call her "your mother."

My older child, who does not get along with their mother (Mom-1) originally wanted us to use "Mom 1.0" and "Mom 2.0," but I said no -- she was resentful enough about the divorce, and referring to her as the "previous version" would not improve relations.
fluffy jackalope 16th Jun 2021, 10:57 AM edit delete reply
I go with mom and mum for my mums. Works prety well for us atleast but it did confuse some of my mates a bit.
BreeYark 16th Jun 2021, 11:03 AM edit delete reply
We were "mom" and "momino" for a while, especially from our younger. But I made a deal with my kids when I transitioned that they and only they can call me "dad" as long as they liked, but I hope they'll get past that (they were pretty scared/upset about me transitioning at first). These days my kids both often call me Dad and my wife Mom, but occasionally call either of us Momino. Even when my kids call me Dad they are good (now) about using "she" so their friends are often confused why their "Dad" is a "she" ...
Cluedrew 16th Jun 2021, 8:08 PM edit delete reply
I love stories like these. The world isn't made of neat little boxes.
TirzahHayes 16th Jun 2021, 11:20 AM edit delete reply
In 9-1-1, Nia calls her foster moms Mama Hen and Mama Karen and her bio mom either mama or mommy I can't remember. It's a bit different here because Rain and Emily would be their permanent moms but maybe something like that could work.
Rachel 16th Jun 2021, 11:31 AM edit delete reply
This is exactly why subscripts were invented
ever-present guest 16th Jun 2021, 12:09 PM edit delete reply
nice, another mathematician
Natalie 16th Jun 2021, 4:22 PM edit delete reply
Wait, then which one of them gets to be "mom-sub-naught" and which one is relegated to the (obviously much worse) "mom-sub-one"??
Keineier 18th Jun 2021, 1:09 AM edit delete reply
Mom' (read "Mom-prime") and Mom" ("Mom-double prime").
Drake Zephyr 16th Jun 2021, 11:31 AM edit delete reply
Drake Zephyr
To answer that question, I think they both may just be called "mom" or I think I've heard of kids using different derivations of it like Mom and Mama or something?
Elíz 16th Jun 2021, 12:20 PM edit delete reply
I'm not a kid of a same sex couple, or know one, but I can see it being a kind of creative derivation of "mom" or "dad" for at least one of them.
For instance, I've called my mom "Maim" ever since I was a toddler... and my dad's always been just "Dad". If things had been different, maybe I could have called my moms "Maim" and "Mom". Maybe...
Sammi 16th Jun 2021, 12:40 PM edit delete reply
I had a friend who had two moms growing up. She called them "mom" and "mum". It worked out pretty well for them. ^_^
firefly42 16th Jun 2021, 12:44 PM edit delete reply
same-gender parents?
Harper 16th Jun 2021, 12:53 PM edit delete reply
!!! I have a friend with three parents!! They have a dad, a bubby(bubba), and a mommy! ((They also have relatives with various other monikers!!))
arkathenia 16th Jun 2021, 1:33 PM edit delete reply
Mommy and momma are cute names <3 Though for someone, it will be her, RNainme
SometimesIReadComics 16th Jun 2021, 2:23 PM edit delete reply
I'm still trying to figure out what I wanna be called in general. Mum has always called me her "Eldest" or "Firstborn", so that's fine. But what about my aunt? If there's a good gender neutral term for niece/nephew, I ain't found it.
ever-present guest 16th Jun 2021, 3:00 PM edit delete reply
nibling (coined 1951)
Fourth Nate 15th Jul 2021, 11:56 PM edit delete reply
On the flip side, I'm trying to get Nander off the ground locally as a genderless aunt/uncle title
Fox 16th Jun 2021, 3:53 PM edit delete reply
You can use nibling, which is a gender neutral term coined in the 1950's.
guest 26th Jun 2021, 3:21 AM edit delete reply
Other than "nibling" there's always "my sister's/brother's kid". but that can get really complicated really fast from "sibling-in-law's kid" or "ex-wife's brother's stepsister's child"
AmberPeacemaker 16th Jun 2021, 2:33 PM edit delete reply
In my house I'm Mom and my wife is Mommy.
Artorigus 16th Jun 2021, 3:06 PM edit delete reply
Our kid isn't quite here yet, but so far the plan is that I'm Dad and he's Papa. But he's also considering Viejo since it's more conspicuously Spanish, which would help make it clearer for others which parent our child is referring to. It's a work in progress.
Emily Luna 16th Jun 2021, 7:03 PM edit delete reply
First time commenting, so first off I'm a trans girl as well and actually chose Emily for my name before reading Rain so THANK YOU for turning Emily into such an awesome character lol.

Next if you think two moms is bad try 4 lol! My wife and I amicably divorced about a year after I transitioned and now there's me, her, my wife, and her long term girlfriend. So I'm momma, my ex is mommy, my wife is mom, and my ex's gf is Mama Lori. At first it got a bit confusing for our daughters but they got it sorted pretty quick.

girlygirl 16th Jun 2021, 7:30 PM edit delete reply
i LOVE the call back to like the 2nd page ever when rain wanted to be a mommy! so excited for the baby!
naobilynn 16th Jun 2021, 8:07 PM edit delete reply
When I got married I got a second mom. It's confusing for others cause I call them both mom. It's mainly context based. One gave birth to me and the other actually acts like a parent. Though I do like the mommy rain and mommy Emily. I did that for all the relatives I wasn't close to. Like,if we were close they'd be auntie or grandma, if we weren't close they'd be aunt name with the exception of a set of siblings that were my great aunts cause there were 4 and calling them all aunt got confusing. If we were one on one they were aunt though. I'm bad with titles and pronouns so it was always just whatever and I'd often just hey you them or use their name.
Natalie 16th Jun 2021, 8:39 PM edit delete reply
I have two moms, and I call my birth mom ‘mom 1’ and my stepmom is ‘mom 2’
Reverend Browning 16th Jun 2021, 8:49 PM edit delete reply
I've heard "Mother" / "Mom" used in this situation before.
Haelwenn (lanodan) 16th Jun 2021, 9:26 PM edit delete reply
I think it's kind of like grandparents, different naming for each tends to work, at least in french mémé vs. mamie works.
Sugarplum 17th Jun 2021, 12:07 AM edit delete reply
I have friends, a lesbian couple and one is a trans woman, their daughter calls birth mom "Mama" and her other mom "Mommy"
Annalise 17th Jun 2021, 12:49 AM edit delete reply
I'm mama and my spouse is mom. My friends are mom and mommy. I know another couple who uses first initials: e.g. Mama C and Mama S.
Absentia 17th Jun 2021, 3:33 AM edit delete reply
i'm a bit concerned that Rain said parent and not mom...
Dinosawer 17th Jun 2021, 4:40 AM edit delete reply
They're both 'Mom', and in the cases where it isn't clear from context which one we're talking about it's "Mom Firstname"
Dechaineaux 17th Jun 2021, 4:45 AM edit delete reply
Well, there is the option of "Mom" and "Mother"

Without trying to get into the "Who's the guy and who's the girl" bullshit thing, the one who is the more "nurturing" would be the "Mom" while the one is the more "structured" would be the "Mother"
Tramuntana 17th Jun 2021, 4:58 AM edit delete reply
In Catalan and Spanish we usually go with "Papa" and "Papi" or "Mama" and "Mami". Basically, since everybody mixes up both languages a lot anyway, we straight up took the term from each other.
Elliot. 17th Jun 2021, 6:02 AM edit delete reply
My partner and I, both men, are Poppy and Dapple.
Lilly 17th Jun 2021, 10:42 AM edit delete reply
They could also go with the quaker option and not use titles at all.

So they're just Rain and Emily to their kids.
Absentia 17th Jun 2021, 1:28 PM edit delete reply
Is my birthday!!! Can I get a happy birthday from you guys since my family hasn't said anything to me about it?
Long-Time Lurker 17th Jun 2021, 10:20 PM edit delete reply
Happy birthday! I hope you have a fantastic day. :)
drs 17th Jun 2021, 1:35 PM edit delete reply
In Nanoha, Vivio uses Fate-mama and Nanoha-mama, though she's adopted at age 6 so more articulate than an 18 month old.

Rain-mama and Emily-mama? Still need something for the two-syllable stage, though.
Guest 17th Jun 2021, 2:35 PM edit delete reply
I have a friend who has two moms and she calls them mom and mommy. She also uses their names.
Kyla 17th Jun 2021, 5:07 PM edit delete reply
Me and my wife have a 8 year old. She calls us mamma and mommy. But if only one of us is around she just calls us mom. We tried switching to mommy,K and mommy,S but she wasn't having any of that lol.
SaraTiggs 17th Jun 2021, 6:07 PM edit delete reply
I came out to my wife before we had kids. To our children I'm Mama while she's Mommy.
JD 18th Jun 2021, 2:44 AM edit delete reply
A little different since I had hetero parents, but as a small child I didn’t really get the whole mom dad thing. When I was hurt and wanted comfort, I wanted my mom, so I called for my mommy Eloise or mommy Scott. When I was scared and wanted protection, I wanted my dad, so I called daddy Eloise or daddy Scott. This is second hand, I don’t remember it at all as I was very small, but I’ve always thought it funny.
guest 26th Jun 2021, 3:16 AM edit delete reply
genuinely laughed at this story. kid you hd a weird idea of gender and i support it
Maggie W 18th Jun 2021, 8:44 PM edit delete reply
My spouse and I go by Mama and Mom respectively. Since they birthed the kids, we agreed they could have first pick of the titles, which ended up being what the kids already called them :) I've seen a lot of variations, but ultimately, kids just want reliable sources of love and safety 💜
Melody 20th Jun 2021, 8:44 PM edit delete reply
I took care of some kids with two moms and they were Mommy and Mama. Not sure if that's changed a bit with their eldest almost being a teenager now but it was working just fine for them when I last saw them before the pandemic.
Tokuben 18th Jul 2021, 1:28 PM edit delete reply
Oh my god when will Emily have the baby? I wanna see her be a good mom!
Aisling 6th Sep 2021, 11:16 AM edit delete reply
We started out with "mommy" and "mama", but somehow ended up on "mom" and "momom" :D
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