The sky's getting darker, but the future's feeling brighter for these two. ^_^
Rain and Emily continue to share a moment, briefly highlighting their own insecurities. And then it's followed up by a cute fluffy moment asking the big questions. :P
Honestly though, while that last bit is played up as a cute humorous break in the tone, it's also kind of a legit question. I recall discussing this with my spouse in the short period when we were considering kids. We'd agreed we'd be "Mommy and Mama", but who knows if our hypothetical kid would've actually taken to it. So as a genuine question to parents with a same-sex partner (or to kids of same-sex parents), how is it addressed with you? What do you say?
Mom and Mommy? Mom-A and Mom-B? Mom-Rain and Mom-Em? I once wrote a collaborative story on a roll-play site that kind-of addressed this issue. Two women, best friends, both married and divorced, both with a child each, realise that they should be a couple and start living together. Their kids came up with the above options in the story.
As a trans woman actively trying for a baby with my wife, I've had this thought more than once. I think it's going to be "Mom <name1>" and "Mom <name2>" in our case.
I mean it's used quite regularly already with multiple Aunts, Uncles, Grampas/mas etc... Uncle Christian, Uncle Peter, Uncle James. Why not Mom Emely and Mom Rain?
omg Ranily might be my favourite ship of all fiction after this page
Rain not knowing what to call herself and then going with "parent" is so sad and so true to life. I love that Emily immediately calls her a mom without making a big deal out of it.
I think Mom and Mama is a relatively common solution, though it might be confusing to other people. Kinda like the problem I have with my step-grandmother who's always gone by Nanny. I love the sweet old lady, but I always have to explain it to anyone outside the family who thinks I'm talking about some kind of hired caregiver.
So my partner who I've gotten hooked on this series btw. Made the comment that she wants to be called Mama and I take the name Mommy before she even read the bottom text. Found that funny.
In our case, the cis (=bio-) mom is "Mon-1" and I'm "Mom-2." When there's no ambiguity (we're divorces), both of us are just "mom." And I call her "your mother."
My older child, who does not get along with their mother (Mom-1) originally wanted us to use "Mom 1.0" and "Mom 2.0," but I said no -- she was resentful enough about the divorce, and referring to her as the "previous version" would not improve relations.
We were "mom" and "momino" for a while, especially from our younger. But I made a deal with my kids when I transitioned that they and only they can call me "dad" as long as they liked, but I hope they'll get past that (they were pretty scared/upset about me transitioning at first). These days my kids both often call me Dad and my wife Mom, but occasionally call either of us Momino. Even when my kids call me Dad they are good (now) about using "she" so their friends are often confused why their "Dad" is a "she" ...
In 9-1-1, Nia calls her foster moms Mama Hen and Mama Karen and her bio mom either mama or mommy I can't remember. It's a bit different here because Rain and Emily would be their permanent moms but maybe something like that could work.
To answer that question, I think they both may just be called "mom" or I think I've heard of kids using different derivations of it like Mom and Mama or something?
I'm not a kid of a same sex couple, or know one, but I can see it being a kind of creative derivation of "mom" or "dad" for at least one of them.
For instance, I've called my mom "Maim" ever since I was a toddler... and my dad's always been just "Dad". If things had been different, maybe I could have called my moms "Maim" and "Mom". Maybe...
I'm still trying to figure out what I wanna be called in general. Mum has always called me her "Eldest" or "Firstborn", so that's fine. But what about my aunt? If there's a good gender neutral term for niece/nephew, I ain't found it.
Other than "nibling" there's always "my sister's/brother's kid". but that can get really complicated really fast from "sibling-in-law's kid" or "ex-wife's brother's stepsister's child"
Our kid isn't quite here yet, but so far the plan is that I'm Dad and he's Papa. But he's also considering Viejo since it's more conspicuously Spanish, which would help make it clearer for others which parent our child is referring to. It's a work in progress.
First time commenting, so first off I'm a trans girl as well and actually chose Emily for my name before reading Rain so THANK YOU for turning Emily into such an awesome character lol.
Next if you think two moms is bad try 4 lol! My wife and I amicably divorced about a year after I transitioned and now there's me, her, my wife, and her long term girlfriend. So I'm momma, my ex is mommy, my wife is mom, and my ex's gf is Mama Lori. At first it got a bit confusing for our daughters but they got it sorted pretty quick.
When I got married I got a second mom. It's confusing for others cause I call them both mom. It's mainly context based. One gave birth to me and the other actually acts like a parent. Though I do like the mommy rain and mommy Emily. I did that for all the relatives I wasn't close to. Like,if we were close they'd be auntie or grandma, if we weren't close they'd be aunt name with the exception of a set of siblings that were my great aunts cause there were 4 and calling them all aunt got confusing. If we were one on one they were aunt though. I'm bad with titles and pronouns so it was always just whatever and I'd often just hey you them or use their name.
Without trying to get into the "Who's the guy and who's the girl" bullshit thing, the one who is the more "nurturing" would be the "Mom" while the one is the more "structured" would be the "Mother"
In Catalan and Spanish we usually go with "Papa" and "Papi" or "Mama" and "Mami". Basically, since everybody mixes up both languages a lot anyway, we straight up took the term from each other.
Me and my wife have a 8 year old. She calls us mamma and mommy. But if only one of us is around she just calls us mom. We tried switching to mommy,K and mommy,S but she wasn't having any of that lol.
A little different since I had hetero parents, but as a small child I didn’t really get the whole mom dad thing. When I was hurt and wanted comfort, I wanted my mom, so I called for my mommy Eloise or mommy Scott. When I was scared and wanted protection, I wanted my dad, so I called daddy Eloise or daddy Scott. This is second hand, I don’t remember it at all as I was very small, but I’ve always thought it funny.
My spouse and I go by Mama and Mom respectively. Since they birthed the kids, we agreed they could have first pick of the titles, which ended up being what the kids already called them :) I've seen a lot of variations, but ultimately, kids just want reliable sources of love and safety 💜
I took care of some kids with two moms and they were Mommy and Mama. Not sure if that's changed a bit with their eldest almost being a teenager now but it was working just fine for them when I last saw them before the pandemic.
Rain not knowing what to call herself and then going with "parent" is so sad and so true to life. I love that Emily immediately calls her a mom without making a big deal out of it.
My older child, who does not get along with their mother (Mom-1) originally wanted us to use "Mom 1.0" and "Mom 2.0," but I said no -- she was resentful enough about the divorce, and referring to her as the "previous version" would not improve relations.
For instance, I've called my mom "Maim" ever since I was a toddler... and my dad's always been just "Dad". If things had been different, maybe I could have called my moms "Maim" and "Mom". Maybe...
Next if you think two moms is bad try 4 lol! My wife and I amicably divorced about a year after I transitioned and now there's me, her, my wife, and her long term girlfriend. So I'm momma, my ex is mommy, my wife is mom, and my ex's gf is Mama Lori. At first it got a bit confusing for our daughters but they got it sorted pretty quick.
Without trying to get into the "Who's the guy and who's the girl" bullshit thing, the one who is the more "nurturing" would be the "Mom" while the one is the more "structured" would be the "Mother"
So they're just Rain and Emily to their kids.
Rain-mama and Emily-mama? Still need something for the two-syllable stage, though.