21st Apr 2021, 9:09 AM in Ch. 42 - One Day at a Time
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Fun fact: Panel 5 is kind of a deep cut reference. It actually stems from a short-lived period in which I did an Ask Blog with the characters. At the time, someone has asked the cast how they feel about bicycles, and I very randomly decided Emily could not ride a bike. But I don't know if I quite realized yet back then how relevant to her backstory that little factoid would end up being.

Anyway, I've talked a lot about therapy in Rain in the past - particularly with regards to it being one of the first steps of medical transition for trans folks. But I wanted a cis person to wind up going to therapy too. I wanted Emily to very specifically tell someone she's going. Because getting therapy is often stigmatized, and it shouldn't be. There's nothing wrong with needing and seeking help.

We all have our traumas, and I don't think it's good to let them fester. Please seek out help if you need it, trans or not.

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naobilynn (Guest)
I've never understood the stigma against therapy. For example, if you've been hurt psychically i.e. torn a muscle while running you do psychical therapy to heal the muscle properly so it logically makes sense that if you're hurting psychologically you'd get therapy to heal that hurt properly. Not to mention therapy can help with good mental health practices and such. It's no different than going to a routine psychical or visiting the doctor when you feel sick. There are so many people without disorders that would benefit from good mental health habits cause most of them won't be immediately aware they're doing something wrong. Like how staying in the dark all day can cause depression.
Anastasia (Guest)
The stigma against therapy is pretty dumb.

But therapy does also cost a ton of money, and not everyone can afford it.
Ariadne (Guest)
honestly i think pretty much everyone can benefit from therapy. and so long as the therapist is halfway decent at the job it certainly won't hurt anything. the social stigma against therapy is dumb and bad
Some Ed
I think the stigma against therapy comes from at least two places. I'd guess there's probably more, but I don't recall at the moment having clearly encountered more than these two:

1. Some therapists aren't very good, and even those who are aren't very good for every patient. Even if they *can* be good for a particular patient, they're of no use until the patient has decided that they want to be helped. As a result, a lot of people who go to therapy get ineffective treatment.

2. When someone who has been abused returns from an effective therapy session, they frequently have a much better idea about who has caused their problems. Their abusers are pretty much never happy about this.

But it's worse than that, because most abusers know they're abusers, and know that their victims going to therapy threatens them. As a result, they act with the tools they're most familiar with to try to prevent that from happening in the first place.

In my experience, abusers will often try to dissuade anyone from going to therapy, not just their victim(s), because if other people get helped by therapy, they may recommend it to the abuser's victims.

I doubt that everyone who disses psychotherapy is either an abuser or has had poor results from going to a psychotherapist. It feels like there should at *least* be some people who are just passing on what they learned of psychotherapy second hand. But everyone I've gotten to know well enough to understand why they complain about psychotherapy that I'm recalling right now falls into one or both of those categories.

I feel like I've known far more people in the second category, though. There are so many people out there who abuse others. I get that there's a lot of context that one misses when one sees people interacting on the street, but I'm not really talking about that. Most of my family is abusive. Most of my friends' families have a lot of abusive people, too.

Not all of that is deliberate. As a society, we haven't figured out how to train new parents how to raise their children without abusing them. There are certainly classes on that subject, but some of those classes actually teach parents *to* abuse their children. I haven't seen a lot of that coursework, as I didn't expect I'd ever be raising a family, and I haven't ever raised a family. But I did have a couple that I was just signed up for, and both of those taught abuse, though not the same abuse.
SometimesIReadComics (Guest)
Prbly 'cause ppl don't realise that there's stages between "Normal" and insane asylum patient when it comes to mental health.
Cluedrew (Guest)
I think our society as a whole just hasn't taken mental health seriously (or is just starting to). On one hand you got the over the top work ethic that tells people to keep pushing through unless there is something significantly and visibly wrong. On the other hand you got the perceived divide between body and mind, which means physical health is a problem with your body while mental health is a problem with you.

So that's my reason 3 & 4.
willowstream646 (Guest)
Awww Emily!!!
I personally never learned to swim. Or, more accurately, I don't know how, heh. I've had many a swim lesson. Maybe I just don't have the coordination I usually do, when I'm in the water. I love water though!!!! It is very tasty and so freaking pretty!! I even love being in the water, though it's a bit difficult to move from place to place ;) I usually just walk on the bottom~ *if Emily wants to* I hope the other characters help and encourage her so she can be in the water even if she can't swim!!! Water feels so nice uwu
SometimesIReadComics (Guest)
Emily's mother wouldn't have let her go to therapy for fear of her dirty laundry being aired. #Relatable
Fourth Nate (Guest)
Aw, I was hoping Emily would get her own swimsuit reveal.
It's nice that Blair doesn't try to push her to swim anyway or immediately offer to teach her. She probably already knows that she could try it if she wanted to, and he's respecting that she just said no she's not going to swim.
Maybe it doesn't sound like a big thing but I've often encountered guys who get surprisingly pushy when someone tries to opt out of really mundane things
I'm glad Emily is going to therapy with her mom out of the picture. And my hunch is that we're going to see Emily do more than dip by the end of the chapter.

I have thoughts about the stigmatization of therapy that I feel are heavier than I want to get in these comments.

Pip (Guest)
Hi Jocelyn! I have been meaning to buy all the volumes of Rain for ages, and super excited to do so... but now it's getting close to the end, I started wondering if you'd consider doing a box set when it's over? I love box sets and I would buy right now if not for my inkling that something special might happen if I wait for the end... XD
I'm 58 and never learned to swim. I didn't learn to ride a bicycle until I was 8 yrs old.
i can BARELY swim. not normally like msot people, but i managed to get my own way of doing it. i just never really vibed with the "official" way
So much for never telling a soul about not being able to cycle
It's good that she's going to therapy