People have been asking a lot lately what pronouns one should use for Ky. Normally, my answer would be that using the ones that coincide with their current gender usually works. But they/them is also always acceptable too, especially if we're not sure where Ky stands at the moment.
This is a brief dialogue added later from most of the script, but I hope you'll get something out of it. I do think this scene is important for a few reasons (that I can't explain without spoiling), so I hope you still get something out of it.
Lynn has repeatedly said that Emily is definitely not going to go into labor at prom, but I agree that it doesn't seem likely this prom is going to be uneventful.
We are watching something big happening, and you're wondering if something big will happen?
This is a Catholic school function and a couple of the attendees are about to swap clothing. That's going to be a big thing. I hope nobody's going to get hurt in the process. Normally, there would be people who get hurt by something like this, but it's a web comic by an author who's not know for hurting her characters, so it'll probably just be drama. But we'll see.
this is probably just me, but i really don't bother correcting people that misgender me?
I know it can be hard when talking to or about genderfluid people, and as such, I accept either he or she at any time. I know they're not doing it on purpose. also, I don't like "they". it feels really impersonal to me and I much rather have people misgender me than that ...
It's generally relative to the amount of dysphoria they suffer. If they're a particular stickler on this, it usually means they feel pretty out of sorts about any mismatch they have.
Due to some of the ways people around me have insulted others, my first reaction to someone referring to me with singular 'they' in my presence was to ask them, "Um, did you just call me fat?" That said, I'm for most intents and purposes male, and most specifically all the weight-shaming I received while growing up was due to my lack of a muscular physique, so I found that more amusing than anything.
(Just to clarify, yes, some of my uncles would routinely refer to people who were overweight as two or three people. My father has also done this, though it was a much rarer thing for him. They didn't do this to these people's faces, but it still felt incredibly rude and inappropriate to me. But I've never found a way to actually correct my uncles' behaviors, so all I could really do there was stop interacting with them. Not that I stopped interacting with them over that. That was just one of the gold bricks on that camel's back, there were many others.)
I think that Rain's use of the word "they" simply confused Drew. Most people use "they" in plural tense, so he probably just thought that Ky was with someone else and was questioning it.
...now that you mention it, if Drew is clueless about the whole thing, then Ky's about to drop Drew into his personal nightmare without warning - if not straight up out him. This seems rude.
Granted, by the main cast's standards, a personal nightmare of being exposed as "possibly not completely ramrod straight" to the whole school may seem a little silly (and it'll be left in the dust the moment Ryan Flaherty is announced prom king), but that doesn't help Drew.
@KK, To be perfectly honest, my first impression when Rain said "...they went to talk with Rudy..." was to think 'who did Ky go with?' thinking Rain was using the plural 'they' meaning multiple people. It took me a second to realize she was using the singular form. Drew may simply have had the same reaction. We don't really see his face, and he didn't get a chance to say more than two words before Rain ran off again. So I guess we'll have to wait until his next appearance to see if we get more of an idea what he was thinking or what his reaction is.
I'm hoping Drew gets a chance to think about and process what Rain said before he finds Ky, so that he can handle the situation better than he probably would have in the past.
I am kind of confused why Drew and Ky thought it was a good idea to go to prom together. Drew is so not ready to come to terms with his sexuality that coming out isn't even on the table for him right now. He wants to see Ky as a girl because otherwise, he has to think about what it says about himself that Ky isn't a girl. Ky knows this, it is something they have talked about as they had the falling out. Why Ky thought it was a good idea to call Drew just because they were in girl mode that day is really beyond me. Drew already said that Ky could go to prom without him because they were on the list, so there was really no reason to go together. Ky wearing a tuxedo will just result in an argument between them again which could have been avoided if Ky had just gone to the prom alone. I do want them to work things out but at this point, they are just hurting each other because they want different things that the other person can't or won't provide.
Ky and Drew coming to prom together was a bad idea. Drew is about to get outed hard and no one's thought to warn him about it. Of course I'm not saying Ky should stay in girl mode. If they're not comfortable then changing is a good idea. But Drew is clearly not ready to be out and Ky being in boy mode is super going to out Drew, because his classmates are ignorant dumbasses. Basically they should never have come to prom together.
It was almost certainly a TERRIBLE idea. However, Ky has kind of a history of making bad decisions when it comes to Drew! Love can do that to a person, rather famously.
So on this, my first read-through of the archives, I am definitely shaking my head at this terrible decision, but also completely unsurprising by it.
I do believe this is the first time anyone (including Ky themself) has ever called Ky "they" in the comic. It's been in the notes and comments before, but I think not the comic.
This is a Catholic school function and a couple of the attendees are about to swap clothing. That's going to be a big thing. I hope nobody's going to get hurt in the process. Normally, there would be people who get hurt by something like this, but it's a web comic by an author who's not know for hurting her characters, so it'll probably just be drama. But we'll see.
I know it can be hard when talking to or about genderfluid people, and as such, I accept either he or she at any time. I know they're not doing it on purpose. also, I don't like "they". it feels really impersonal to me and I much rather have people misgender me than that ...
but I guess that's just individual preference ^_^
Due to some of the ways people around me have insulted others, my first reaction to someone referring to me with singular 'they' in my presence was to ask them, "Um, did you just call me fat?" That said, I'm for most intents and purposes male, and most specifically all the weight-shaming I received while growing up was due to my lack of a muscular physique, so I found that more amusing than anything.
(Just to clarify, yes, some of my uncles would routinely refer to people who were overweight as two or three people. My father has also done this, though it was a much rarer thing for him. They didn't do this to these people's faces, but it still felt incredibly rude and inappropriate to me. But I've never found a way to actually correct my uncles' behaviors, so all I could really do there was stop interacting with them. Not that I stopped interacting with them over that. That was just one of the gold bricks on that camel's back, there were many others.)
Granted, by the main cast's standards, a personal nightmare of being exposed as "possibly not completely ramrod straight" to the whole school may seem a little silly (and it'll be left in the dust the moment Ryan Flaherty is announced prom king), but that doesn't help Drew.
I'm hoping Drew gets a chance to think about and process what Rain said before he finds Ky, so that he can handle the situation better than he probably would have in the past.
So on this, my first read-through of the archives, I am definitely shaking my head at this terrible decision, but also completely unsurprising by it.