For what it's worth, Colette is a senior. So he's not going to be waiting too much longer, at least. But prom is such an excessively gendered event, and I can vouch that that can make it really hard to cope when you're not dressed the way you know you should be. Colette's putting on a good face here, but surely this still isn't easy for him. Regardless, he won't seem to budge from his no trading outfits stance.
It's often one of the first things I do, yes. Today, I also have an early doctor's appointment, so I wanted to make sure I posted before not being able to post for who knows how long.
Anyway, its probably a little easier for Colette because he isn't out and is used to being in girl mode anyway. Not easy, but it would probably be harder if he had already started coming out and had to switch modes.
I came out when I was a senior in high school and I was dressing as my true self and going by my chosen name and pronouns outside of class. I skipped my high school graduation because hearing my deadname and being placed with the girls when I was out as a guy most of the time was just too painful.
Hey Jocelyn how's it going? I basically got cheated on on Saturday. It's only like kind of because we were lovers but not really official. But she still kept a secret love for some girl behind my back. So it still feels like cheating. She suggested we just do a poly relationship, but I'm monogamous so I said no, and now they are dating. She's happy now so I guess it's okay. But I've been feeling like human garbage ever since then. You have any advice on how to deal with stuff like that?
I know I'm not who you were asking for, but having been through a similar situation I figured I might be able to help. I found what helped, was to politely communicate how I felt with the person who hurt me and then to work on things that made me feel good and confident. Some things I did that helped, were to dress comfortably but nicely every day, take myself out to nice meals, get a massage, and hang out with supportive and positive friends. I really hope this helps.
Wait, does the second panel mean to imply that Rudy not getting to attend the prom as Ruby hurts him as Colette not getting to attend as his true self hurts him?
@Guest I just took it as them both having common ground of wanting to dress differently but not being able to due to social constraints. Them laughing about it is like an in-joke, where it brings them some amusement in a crummy situation. However, I personally am not reading it as their situations being equivalent.
Rudy wears female clothes for fun more than identity, right? Like I can see him in college wearing a dress and being open about still being a "he" and "Rudy". The chance to wear an occasion-appropriate super fancy frilly dress? That has to be hard to pass up - hence the monocle and almost-top hat to famboyantly dress fancy for funsies not for what anyone else thinks. Dancing is something that really needs a skirt or dress though, for the twirls, but I suppose a long coat might fan out like a cape all the same. So anyway, disappointing he can not twirl in a fancy dress, as Ruby or Rudy, while Col would be more like uncomfortable (which fancy clothes generally are anyway for all sides) so the internal is different but the external would be the same.
This could be the sort of thing that Rudy is just kind-of bummed about, and really bothers Colette on a much deeper level, but due to the way they both process things outwardly they happened to use the same language to describe that. Or he could be being cavalier about it because it genuinely doesn't feel as intensely dysphoric to him as it does to say, Ky, who is clearly suffering tonight.
Either way, they both threw out the same quip, leading to an awkward and funny situation for both of them. Sometimes it can make things suck less to know for sure that you have an accomplice who's got your back, even if they're not having the exact same experience or on the exact same path!
I 100% agree with that statement. I was reading this comic over and over again until that exact thought clicked in my mind so I read the comments to see if someone had already said so.
It's often one of the first things I do, yes. Today, I also have an early doctor's appointment, so I wanted to make sure I posted before not being able to post for who knows how long.
Why do you ask, though?
I came out when I was a senior in high school and I was dressing as my true self and going by my chosen name and pronouns outside of class. I skipped my high school graduation because hearing my deadname and being placed with the girls when I was out as a guy most of the time was just too painful.
Either way, they both threw out the same quip, leading to an awkward and funny situation for both of them. Sometimes it can make things suck less to know for sure that you have an accomplice who's got your back, even if they're not having the exact same experience or on the exact same path!