Comic 605 - Transgender Day of Remembrance 2014

20th Nov 2014, 12:03 PM in Special
Transgender Day of Remembrance 2014
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Jocelyn 20th Nov 2014, 12:03 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
November 20th is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. Each grave shown here lists a real name of a real person we lost this year. I realize some of them are hard to read here, but you can go here for a full list. The graves do not list every name though. Not even close. There are just too many names.

Too many people. Murdered. Often in exceptionally brutal and inhuman ways, to the point where some can't even be identified. And why does this happen? Because trans people wanting to be themselves is somehow threatening to people? Are you fucking kidding me?

In addition to all the names on the site, I learned a little while ago second-hand that a friend of mine took her own life fairly recently. I admit I didn't know her especially well, and I don't know the details of what drove her to that. I know she was a Rain fan though. I know I've drawn things for her, and she for me. I'm pretty sure I've given her advice in the past on how to do a webcomic herself. I know she was a cool person with a good sense of humor. It's been probably at least a year since I last talked to her, but I liked every instance in which we did talk. I would've liked to have gotten to know her better.

I also know she was transgender, meaning there are a lot of things that could have been eating away at her, and probably for a long time. And most of the hardships that oft come with being trans - fear, self-loathing, feeling unloved, etc - are pressed on us by people around us who refuse to understand or accept us for being us. I don't agree with suicide, but I can imagine the circumstances that brought my friend to that dark place.


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So, as I say every year: I ask that you at least take a moment out of your day to just reflect on this... or if you know someone who is transgender, just give them a hug or tell them you're there for them... or if YOU are transgender, just be strong, love yourself, and don't be afraid of who you are.
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LauraEss 20th Nov 2014, 12:24 PM edit delete reply
LauraEss
a good page
GigaNerd17 20th Nov 2014, 3:01 PM edit delete reply
GigaNerd17
Amen.
Torne 21st Nov 2014, 8:22 AM edit delete reply
If tears could build a stairway and memories a handrail, i'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. We all miss you, brothers and sisters. You are in our hearts.
j-eagle12212012 22nd Nov 2014, 4:48 PM edit delete reply
j-eagle12212012
I pray...
for the year that November 20th can be know as Transgender day of acceptance...
I pray...
for a year where no transperson is killed for being themselves...
I pray...
for a year where it is ok to be yourself and you can actually celebrate it...
I pray ...
for those we lost...
I pray...
for change...
I pray...
Jax Rhapsody 22nd Nov 2014, 11:34 PM edit delete reply
That's why I say eliminate as many negative people around as you can, regardless of who they are- if it can be done, a good %20 increase in happiness, small and important. I don't like too much that people kill tyemselves partially because of others, because I know it's more to it than that.

I'm also hoping all is well with you, we don't know each other, but you seem okay, and I'd hate to see Rain left in a cliff hanger, like Venus Envy. lol on that, I might not know you, but I'm certain you are more than a comic.
Kairie Alexandria 23rd Nov 2014, 3:39 PM edit delete reply
You know, I just finished reading everything until now, and its made me look at my transition from a whole different view. I'm turning eighteen on Christmas and have been trying to get my family and friends to support me for eleven years now, and have only managed to get my mom and grandma on my side. The rest of the family still refers to me as "jacob" and purposefully use the wrong pronouns in some attempt to make me "snap out of it"... but it's been eleven years. They just don't understand I thought when I got my hormones a year ago I could be happier, which I am, but between losing all my family, and shunned by every single person I ever called friend, I've been in a really dark place... this comic series have me new life,a new purpose, I know it's cheesy but yeah... also, your character not only looks exactly like me, but acts the same sometimes as well, so this comic is very personal to me... thank you Jocelyn, you saved me. Also also, I've never met another trans in person... also also also, is be the same as most trans except I was born without any internal reproductive organs and therefore cannot produce any hormones naturally, and the doctors still made me wait for five years, and even forced me to get testosterone for six months.
Tom Delgado 23rd Nov 2014, 10:27 PM edit delete reply
As someone with several transgender friends, it breaks my heart to see so many lose their lives needlessly. All of these deaths could have easily been prevented through kindness, understanding, and support.

I hope that all of the fallen have found peace amongst the heavens, and someday soon, we will not have to mourn anymore lost lives.
Guest 25th Nov 2014, 3:22 AM edit delete reply
It's horrifying to think that people will hurt and even kill others just for being different. If you can't understand someone, that's your problem, don't take it out on the poor person. I currently identify as cis female, but I've identified as agender in the past so I know what it feels like to hate your body and yourself. Around the time I started feeling female once again, I promised myself that I would be open minded about my gender and that if I started feeling more masculine as I once did, I would identify as agender or genderfluid or whatever I thought fit me at the time. Even though I wasn't out to anyone except a few close friends, I know it's hard to deal with transphobes. On a different note, I was wondering when you would be posting regularly again. If you need more time to heal take as long as you need, but I was curious if you'd be posting or even starting a new page. Either way, hope you're feeling better!
Jocelyn 25th Nov 2014, 4:37 AM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Guest

Well, I think I'm basically doing a lot better. Things got a little scary for a while and recovery longer than intended because my incision from the surgery got infected. But now I'm finally walking pretty much like I used to again. The incision appears to finally be almost completely closed. And I'm even back on my hormones again (doing wonders for my mood). I'm still taking some antibiotics in regards to my recent infection, and I have at least three more doctor visits coming up, but everything is finally feeling like it's going back to normal again.

So, if I'm feeling better, when do pages come back? As long as my appointments go well, I think there's a very good chance I'll get to resume posting in December. I hesitate to start up sooner just for the worst-case scenario. Heaven forbid, I start up for a week and get bad news and have to stop again. I'd rather come back when I know everything is perfectly fine, in full force with no hiatuses until after like Chapter 25 (that'd be two and a half long chapters away, probably taking us until late Spring or Summer without another break). My last currently planned doctor's appointment is early next month, so it is possible we could see new pages before Christmas. I just want to play it safe until I know for sure. In the meantime, I am working on pages and scripts and some other things too.

With that said, don't worry. Rain is coming back soon. ^_^
Syrup 27th Dec 2014, 4:22 AM edit delete reply
Went around on haloween wishing people a happy Transgender day of remeberance and recently have started identifying as trans gender myself :P also good to know your back to the writing gig jocelyn
Nora 26th Mar 2015, 4:54 PM edit delete reply
A terrible waste of good people. If there is a heaven, I hope they get the bodies they wanted. The form of the people they were supposed to be.
We have lost too many.
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