Comic 965 - On My Own

28th Jun 2017, 1:04 PM in Ch. 33 - The Calm
On My Own
Average Rating: 5 (6 votes)
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Jocelyn 28th Jun 2017, 1:04 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
In my mind, I can already see the relentless barrage of comments saying, "But having to go to the bathroom doesn't need to be an issue. Why doesn't Ruby just _____." There's no time for that! The kid's been drinking a large soda from a fast food establishment; this is urgent! Home is miles away. The quieter bathroom is on the other end of the mall. The back alley is creepy. It has to be the food court bathroom and it has to be right now! XD

Hyperbolic silliness aside, Ruby could probably find a safe, easy solution with a little extra thought, but one does not always think clearest in these moments.


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BlackSocks 28th Jun 2017, 1:30 PM edit delete reply
BlackSocks
I guess you could say that he's...
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Gotta go fast.
Ciary 28th Jun 2017, 1:38 PM edit delete reply
I can see where this is going -_-
this is building up to be worse case scenario
Guest 28th Jun 2017, 1:44 PM edit delete reply
What a shoddy mall doesn't have lockable stalls? Or what else would be the problem here?
Jocelyn 28th Jun 2017, 1:59 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Guest

There's this whole five seconds from the entrance to the stall where you're just in a small, cramped room with any number of extra people who have nothing to do but stare at everything around them. The time spent outside the stall is longer if there's a line or if you really have to wash your hands. In my personal experience, most of my worst trans experiences have happened in that incredibly short window immediately before or after the stall, but still in the bathroom.

You'd be surprised. A lot can happen in that time.
Reimi 28th Jun 2017, 2:56 PM edit delete reply
Reimi
The time between the stall and the door are terrifying for those of us who don't pass 100% and are there alone. Thankfully my only issues have been at work so far. (over a single occupancy restroom no less) It was just one bigoted employee picking a fight with administration that I had already been told by HR that they would lose.
Lyn the Mysfortunate 28th Jun 2017, 2:23 PM edit delete reply
There have even been cases of trans women being beaten after being clocked in the women's restroom. People fear what they don't understand and unfortunately for trans folk that often means they get violent.
Samantha 28th Jun 2017, 3:27 PM edit delete reply
Thankfully, some trans people still have a relatively normal male bladder (i.e they can hold it), unlike postop women.

It was around the time that I was at an opera and saw the appallingly long line and waited like everyone else that I first felt like a woman. It's sort of the defining part of the experience. Nobody treated me badly, because they could see that I now knew what it was like waiting to use the bathroom.
À french reader 28th Jun 2017, 2:32 PM edit delete reply
Hi ! I transionned thanks to this comic which I discovered in october 2014. I just had SRS yesterday and all is going fine so far. Thanks you so much for Rain !
Jocelyn 28th Jun 2017, 2:43 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@À french reader

Congratulations! That's wonderful news! ^_^
bgb16999 28th Jun 2017, 2:48 PM edit delete reply
bgb16999
Yay!
Reimi 28th Jun 2017, 2:52 PM edit delete reply
Reimi
CONGRATS!
Ruth 28th Jun 2017, 5:21 PM edit delete reply
Ruth
Congrats!

Finding and reading this webcomic was a prime motivating factor for my starting transition too!
Mamukoot 28th Jun 2017, 10:43 PM edit delete reply
Congrats.
Anon 28th Jun 2017, 4:05 PM edit delete reply
Even if the Boy room was empty, would trying to sneak into or out of it be even remotely a good idea Ruby? No, no it would not.
Ruth 28th Jun 2017, 5:06 PM edit delete reply
Ruth
Lemme guess what's gonna happen next. Ruby is going to the ladies room because wearing that outfit would surely get him busted in the mens room. While he's in there, one or more of the girls from school in gonna walk in the ladies room too. Poor Rudy/Ruby is gonna have some explaining to do.
Neelix 28th Jun 2017, 6:04 PM edit delete reply
For some reason I'm actually hoping he'll run into Madison, and that she'll remember Halloween and call him Ruby.
(I don't think we specifically saw him use that name with Madison in that sequence, but he definitely told Emily to call him that, so presumably he also requested the others to do the same)

That said part of me worries that if Madison sees Rudy passing as a girl, she'll recall Debbie's comments and begin to wonder about Rain.
PatientlyCurious 28th Jun 2017, 11:56 PM edit delete reply
Never has a comic panel made me go "Oh god, oh god, oh god, oh god, oh god, oh god, oh god. Hands covering face like, "oh my god I didn't think about the bathroom when I got this huge drink and now it's gone and why did I do that." And "oh my god I can't use the guy's bathroom because I look like a girl and people will freak out if they see a girl going into the guy's bathroom, but I can't use the girl's bathroom 'cause people will see that I'm not like them and they'll freak out but I gotta use one and I don't know what to do." And they're alone so it's not even like you can ask someone to come with you for backup when the inevitable encounter happens and you can't be rude when it happens 'cause then the other person will remember you and it'll stick in their mind and they'll mull it over more.
Anonymous 29th Jun 2017, 5:10 PM edit delete reply
Don`t hate me for it,I`m Catholic and I read Rain just for the drama and jokes.The school is Catholic right?I`m just wondering,in the Cathecism (a book full of all things that Catholics believe,all practicing should follow it)it literally says,"They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition."So why is there not a single non Atheist student or parent or staff that knows this???Is it simply for drama or is there a reason?Oh btw I`m talking about Rudy and I haven`t read Rain in a while any other students who experience attraction to other genders.As far as I know the only problem Catholics have with Transgender people (That doesn`t make you a bad person,people!I just want you to be informed in your further endeavors!)is that we believe the body is a temple and should be respected as such.So really I`m not sure about her (the church`s) stance on genderqueer people who do`t wish to make any physical changes to their body. tl;dr I`m Catholic,You aren`t suposed to hate omosexual people,why do people in the comic hate homosexual people,Don`t hate me please

Gesundheit,
Anonymous
Anonymous 29th Jun 2017, 5:13 PM edit delete reply
I meant *their own genders when I said "any other students who experience attraction to other genders"
whoops wasn`t thinking
PatientlyCurious 30th Jun 2017, 12:11 AM edit delete reply
Not all Christians are good Christians. (I do know a few good Christians who know that they're not the judge of a person and that helping and coexisting with a person follows much more closely to the faith than forcing their beliefs onto others.) Unfortunately people tend to interpret the Bible in ways that match their preexisting viewpoints. I've kept up with this comic because it updates on a regular basis and because I can relate to some of its characters. From what I've read so far the people in this comic match pretty well to the people you will find in the central region of the United States.
Some Ed 30th Jun 2017, 11:53 AM edit delete reply
For what it's worth, I know more atheists who know about that part of the Cathecism than I know Catholics who seem to. I know more Catholics than atheists.

Actually, I *might* know more atheists who even *mention* the Cathecism than I know Catholics who mention the Cathecism. A lot of the Catholics I know seem to think that all they need to do to be a good Catholic is go to Mass at least once a week and go to confession when they need to.
Jocelyn 30th Jun 2017, 1:16 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Anonymous

I hate to be the bearer of distressing news, my friend, but the social climate of the school all the kids go to in this comic is heavily inspired by the one I went to in real life during my high school years (actually, the school in the comic is toned down). I was born and raised Catholic, and I know very well that the teachings are positive and all about loving others and not judging them. But because I grew up like that, I saw firsthand that those are not the parts of the faith people follow. I was too afraid to come out during that time, partly because I didn't want to go to hell (a fear planted in me by religious higher ups warping the meanings of scriptures), and partly because I saw other kids being tormented for it, from students and teachers and clergy alike. Heck, the very existence of the concept of "pray the gay away" implies that there are not as many open hearts and open minds as there should be.

I consider myself an atheist now, but only because I never felt welcome in the Catholic church. Religion was very important to me as a kid, but that's also why it so effectively frightened and hurt me. That said, even now I don't consider myself anti-religion or anti-Catholic, because again, I KNOW what the actual message is. I know that if there's a God, He doesn't want us to hurt each other. But somehow, many of His followers completely flip that message. And a lot of folks who claim to be of this faith have done a lot of horrible, truly unforgivable things to people just like the characters in the story, or many of the readers, or myself, because they think that's what God wants them to do.

And that's why I choose to portray the less positive side foremost; it's very real, and alarmingly prominent, and I've seen the damage it can do. But that doesn't mean I'm simply trying to vilify the Christian faith. I know I have a lot of Catholic readers, and my goal is NOT to have them denounce their faith or anything. Rather, I want them to consider what good Christian values truly are. I may be atheist now, but "love thy neighbor" is still a very important attitude for me in my life.

I hope this is taken well. I certainly mean no harm. This is just my stance and how I've viewed things.
Takiri 30th Jun 2017, 1:41 AM edit delete reply
Takiri
This isn't going to end well.
Neelix 30th Jun 2017, 6:55 AM edit delete reply
I just had a thought... Here in Australia, the shopping centres mostly have 3 restrooms, the mens, the ladies and a small unisex restroom for disabled customers... That kind of setup would present an obvious solution for Ruby, but I don't know if the shopping malls in the states use a similar scheme.
Some Ed 30th Jun 2017, 12:13 PM edit delete reply
It's not consistent in the states.

Some offer the arrangement you mentioned.

Some have just two sets of bathrooms (generally, older malls)

I've seen one older mall which had four sets of bathrooms. Those on the first floor were handicapped accessible. Those on the other floor were not. This mall did have a (small) lift, but no escalators. (international note: a lift in the US is not a proper elevator. Generally, they're for one person in a wheelchair at one time. In this case, that one person would need to have a standard wheelchair, not a bariatric one.)

Some have three sets: bathrooms for men (including handicapped men), bathrooms for women (including handicapped women), and bathrooms for people who need to change diapers (I've never been in one, but I'm pretty sure I've noted a lack of an accessibility sign even when the other two restrooms had them)

Some have three sets: accessible bathroom for men, with a diaper changing station, accessible bathroom for women (presumably with a diaper changing station, but I haven't been in either of these that I've seen and people I know who have have not commented on this), and an accessible unisex bathroom (lockable, 1 user bathroom, with a diaper changing station)

I suspect the existence of other configurations.
Neelix 30th Jun 2017, 4:52 PM edit delete reply
Baby change rooms are fairly common here too, but my impression (possibly false, as I've never actually been in one) is that they don't normally contain actual toilets, just the facilities needed to take care of an infant, It's not like even the disposable nappies would be flushable.
Dechaineaux 2nd Jul 2017, 2:07 AM edit delete reply
Fellow Aussie here.

Sometimes, the smaller shopping centres (so, not your Chadstones or ones in state capitals) have a single toilet in the "Nappy changing room" or conflate the Disabled and Family toilets, even if it is just a fold-down change-table in the disabled facilities. (I prefer to use the disabled toilets, as they tend to be cleaner, have toilet paper and are usually available. I'm a fairly quick person when it comes to bio breaks, so I'm not likely to be inconveniencing anyone else who needs to use them).

Every time I saw complaints from America regarding transfolk and facility use, I've always thought "Why not use the disabled toilets?". As others have pointed out, the minimum that they have to provide is a larger stall with a handrail in the gendered facilities.
mecaterpillar 30th Jun 2017, 1:53 PM edit delete reply
Many places do have a "family" or similar bathroom available. Most places don't. Even if a family or single-user bathroom is available, it may be in use, which doesn't help if you got to go this instant. Mind you, I rarely use such bathrooms so I don't know how often they're actually in use.
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