Comic 861 - All is well

28th Jul 2016, 10:17 PM in SRS Hiatus
All is well
Average Rating: 5 (6 votes)
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Jocelyn 28th Jul 2016, 10:17 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
Hey, all~! SRS has happened as of Tuesday. I was discharged from the hospital a little earlier today. I'm currently in Dr. Rumer's recovery suite where I'll be for the next week or so. And I finally have access to my computer again. There is some pain and I've been suffering hiccups almost non-stop for the last few days, but I am well and happy.

If you've been following me on Facebook (both my personal account or the Rain page) you might be aware that I've been making a lot of little updates, but now that it's a bit easier to type in greater quantities I'd like to make sure posts are everywhere. See, I don't mind at all sharing my experience with all this, especially if the information I can provide may be useful for anyone. Information and testimonies on this matter aren't always easy to find, after all. And by making this more accessible, I hope this will be helpful to a lot of you. Questions are totally welcome (as long as I have the answers).


P.S. - This picture was drawn last Saturday, so no, I'm not able to draw again yet. Sorry. But I did whip up a small few other drawings I can also post in the future.
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Eliza 28th Jul 2016, 10:24 PM edit delete reply
Eliza
WAY TO GO ON THE SURGERY JOCELYN! Get well soon! Don't push yourself too hard though, take all the time you need to recover!
Eliza 28th Jul 2016, 10:26 PM edit delete reply
Eliza
also... umm... the surgery wasn't too painful was it. I might be getting the surgery myself in a few months if everything goes well and ive been a bit nervous about it...
Jocelyn 29th Jul 2016, 12:20 AM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Eliza

This was me third time having surgery (twice for cancer before this), and I can say that the surgery itself usually doesn't seem to hurt. It's the recovery that comes afterward where it gets rough.

Recovering from SRS is reasonably painful, for sure. Some pain is inevitable, unfortunately. But if I had to compare this to my last two (in terms of the first three days of recovery), this is honestly probably the easiest I've experienced so far.
Chase 29th Jul 2016, 11:50 PM edit delete reply
When I do mine it will be my ninth surgery so... Should be a cakewalk right? :)
Jocelyn 30th Jul 2016, 11:10 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Chase

Cakewalk? No. Easier for you or me who wouldn't be having SRS as a first surgery, yes. There's some things that are just made easier by having dealt with certain things before. I've been somewhat surprised by how much my caretakers have not been preaching to me about post-op self care, but it hasn't been a huge issue for me because I do remember a lot from my previous affairs. Surgery first-timers would almost certainly have a little more trouble.

Advice to surgery first-timers: Pay attention to everything, write it down if you have to, and ask questions. There are no stupid questions, so it's better to be safe than sorry. ^_^
Zii 28th Jul 2016, 10:33 PM edit delete reply
I've heard of quite a few people having persistent hiccups after surgeries... Interesting! I'm really excited!

I may be reading too much into things, but that post looks so serene and calm, to me. It's like a lifetime of worry has melted away. But I might be projecting...

I really want to hear anything about the surgery. I've been looking into it but have been really on-the-fence about it.
Jocelyn 29th Jul 2016, 12:27 AM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Zii

A lifetime of worry has indeed melted away. Honestly, the hardest part of this surgery was getting through the mountains and mountains of BS bureaucracy to make it happen. And now I just feel relieved, because it's over and I don't have to go through that again. I feel like nothing in my life will ever be this hard again.

At this point, I think the next big thing I'm saving up for is PS4, but that doesn't require me to get approval from doctors, therapists, insurance companies, etc. and by comparison, is actually astronomically cheaper. XD
Samantha 29th Jul 2016, 12:55 AM edit delete reply
Urgh yea. I gave up on the idea of surgery.

(1) I'm genderfluid and into girls, so the most surgery I wanted was an orchiectomy and limited hormones. I dscovered from online resource that hormones have more impact if the "boys" are gone first.
(2) When I went to get one, I told them "that's not the way we've done it before, you need DNA testing, permission from therapist (not in the same town anymore), doctor permission, X years of hormones, etc."

Good Lord! I'm trying to hurry this up, and I don't have a ton of money. Ultimately, I was like "Nahhhhhh."

I really admire your courage, I had like zero patience for this sort of thing.
Samantha 29th Jul 2016, 1:00 AM edit delete reply
Also, New 3DS is way better. You can play DS games, japanese DS, 3DS, or new DS. And unlike PS4 it's not tethered to a location.
Jocelyn 29th Jul 2016, 1:20 AM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Samantha

I've already got a New 3DS (which I'm extremely happy with). And while it's true enough that I'm becoming more a fan of portable gaming as I get older, there are just enough PS4 exclusives I'm interested in now (or non-exclusives that I MIGHT be able to play on Steam, except I'm just not confident enough in my computer to handle them) for me to finally think I may have to give in, at last.
Samantha 29th Jul 2016, 10:18 PM edit delete reply
If Kingdom Hearts 3 actually airs, I might be tempted, but it seems on eternal drawing board.
Dragonrider 28th Jul 2016, 10:59 PM edit delete reply
Dragonrider
CONGRATULATIONS and best wishes for a speedy recovery, a long and happy life and may your every happy dream come true.
SaraDroxyGarcia 29th Jul 2016, 12:35 AM edit delete reply
SaraDroxyGarcia
I'm so glad for you Jocelyn! I can't wait myself to get my SRS. I hope your doing well and recovering is going smoothly.

What mountains of BS did you have to go through? Like was it right before transition or is it requirements from insurance or something else? I know my insurance has a bunch of requirements.

Bunches of love,
Sara
Jocelyn 29th Jul 2016, 1:12 AM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@SaraDroxyGarcia

Well, every insurance and my surgeon were both asking for a lot of approval from a lot of different places. Everybody needs at least two letters from therapists, but my insurance also needed me to see a urologist for reasons that weren't totally clear to me. My surgeon also wanted me to get approval from my oncologist to vouch that my cancer history wouldn't be an issue. This turned into more of an ordeal than it should have because my oncologist went on to work at the VA between the last time I saw her and when I needed to see her again, so I had to very quickly get a new oncologist. My surgeon also required numerous lab tests, like blood draws and a nasal swab. Apparently NOBODY in New York is equipped to something as basic as a nasal swab though, so that of all things was also a source of great stress for me.

Finally, a lot of my surgeon's requirements had to be done within thirty days of the surgery date. So setting up appointments in that very short window of time while struggling to find the resources I need, while dealing with my terrible phone anxiety to make these calls... this was not easy for me at all. Thankfully, recovery itself hasn't been too bad yet. ^_^
SaraDroxyGarcia 29th Jul 2016, 1:47 AM edit delete reply
SaraDroxyGarcia
Thats good! If your getting a PS4 I'd love to game with you! Let alone chat with you also, my comp can barely handle skyrim, planning on building/getting one built for me.
^,~,\\

Bunches of love,
Sara
DramaDork 29th Jul 2016, 2:06 AM edit delete reply
CONGRATS CONGRATS CONGRATS JOCELYN YOU ARE ONE LUCKY GIRL AND I AM SO ENVIOUS!!!
Best wishes and I hope your recovery is as smooth and painless as possible.
Babs 29th Jul 2016, 3:33 AM edit delete reply
Congratulations on SRS! I'm super glad everything went well and that you're feeling okay! I hope you recover good and well, and that hiccups stop, because hiccups are evil.

You're courage is so admirable. I've only come out to one irl friend, and I want to go all the way, but I'm afraid of everything, but you and your comic, and a couple close friends and metaphorical family, prove to me that everything will be fine. Thank you for making this comic and being so brave.

Stay safe and I hope you are super well!
Lemonado Girl 29th Jul 2016, 3:35 AM edit delete reply
Lemonado Girl
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy~! *confetti, applause, and a spontaneous ludicolo dance*

...now to get through fall semester and try to at least start the transitioning process...
DJ All Unka 29th Jul 2016, 5:15 AM edit delete reply
This is wonderful news! I admit that I worried, just out of habit.
DocMesa 29th Jul 2016, 7:28 AM edit delete reply
Rain-ified Jocelyn is cute. Non-Rainified Jocelyn is cute as well. Congratulations on the surgery. :)
Morgan 29th Jul 2016, 1:04 PM edit delete reply
Yaaaaay! :D
EpicSD 29th Jul 2016, 1:16 PM edit delete reply
EpicSD
whats the first step in starting the transformation? finding a gender therapist?
Jocelyn 29th Jul 2016, 3:51 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@EpicSD

The best place to start transition - in my humble opinion - is to find a therapist, yes. They don't necessarily HAVE to specialize in gender-related matters (there are plenty of decent therapists out there who are willing to learn new things for the sake of their patients... and then they WILL be more prepared for the next trans patient that comes around).

Technically speaking, I'm to understand that one could go straight to a doctor and just ask for hormones directly thanks to informed consent. I don't really have any experience with this, so I can't offer any personal info about that, but I've known a few people who started just like that. If you were planning on having any kind of surgery someday though, you'll still need those therapist letters, so getting a therapist on your side early would definitely be useful and make the process a little easier later. Of course, not everyone wants surgery, so again, that's up to the individual.

I may have rambled a bit there, but I hope that answers your question: yes, a therapist IS an ideal first step.
BillycannotFly 29th Jul 2016, 4:35 PM edit delete reply
I'm a transguy, so I'm not sure how much of this would cross over, but I was able to go straight to my doctor and ask for hormones and I'll be able to start them without a letter from my therapist. But I do have one because it just makes life easier, however, he isn't a gender therapist. He is, like Jocelyn pointed out, very willing to learn about trans issues, and since having me as his patient has had more trans* patients who he's been able to help because of meeting me.
EpicSD 29th Jul 2016, 7:44 PM edit delete reply
EpicSD
@Jocelyn and BillycannotFly

Thank you so much!! ^-^
Vanessa 29th Jul 2016, 3:45 PM edit delete reply
This might be a bit too personal, but how do you feel?
Jocelyn 29th Jul 2016, 4:06 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Vanessa

By which, do you mean in general, or how do the "new renovations" feel specifically?

Overall, I feel fine. There is pretty constant pain floating around the 2-4 range (if 0 is no pain, and 10 is the worst pain ever), but I feel like it's mostly very manageable, thankfully. Compared to my last surgical experiences, I would say this one really isn't too bad (as long as I keep on top of my pain meds).

As for how does "it" feel, it's hard to explain. Before I had surgery, many post-op women would tell me it still feels like it's there, but it's somewhere else (which is technically accurate). I can kind of see what they mean too, but everything is still a bit of a mess down there and healing, that I don't really know how to better explain things yet, or if how it feels now is representative of how it will feel in the long run. I will say that when I first woke up after surgery, it felt like I had an erection (which was very confusing!), but that may be quite literally because of all the blood flow to that area.
j-eagle12212012 30th Jul 2016, 1:47 AM edit delete reply
j-eagle12212012
Congratulations Jocelyn
I wish you a speedy recovery
We will be here when you get back to drawing again
Guest 30th Jul 2016, 2:22 AM edit delete reply
Three days ago, my lovely roommate found out I was trans and, as luck would have it, was very accepting. He made a lovely offer to pummel my face in and, when I politely declined, he attempted to break down my door to show affection, or as he put it, "truly make a woman of [me]." I called the cops, and they arrested him, but apparently threats of violence, rape, and murder don't count for anything in these United States if the perpetrator is unable to act on them before police arrive. So, they released him just hours afterwards, and since then, I have been moving from friend to friend, waiting until our dormitory is able to assign me a new room. I wanted to kill myself, after seeing that everything I worked towards was pointless and that there would always be people out there like my roommate, that I would never truly be safe again.

But then I remembered that cute webcomic I saw on Reddit a few days before. I read the first chapter. And the second. And the third. Page by page, chapter by chapter, I slowly started to feel better. By the time I finished reading all previous pages, I felt more than okay. I felt confident. I was still in a shitty situation, but I remembered that there were people out there like me, thay I'll never be alone.

So thank you, Jocelyn. I wish you a speedy recovery.,
Dandelions42 1st Aug 2016, 4:22 PM edit delete reply
*hugs*
Reimi 30th Jul 2016, 3:57 AM edit delete reply
Reimi
Glad to hear things are going well for you, and grats on the Cloyster. :P
Jacy Em 30th Jul 2016, 4:53 PM edit delete reply
@Jocelyn - I noticed your Red New Nintendo 3DS XL in your drawing. I have the same one, and will likely be getting Xenoblade Chronicles 3D today, as you and countless others here have recommended to me. Cheers on your surgery, and I hope you have a speedy recovery! I, personally, have been having trouble finding a psychologist that is in the area that will write letters of recommendation to a endocrinologist, so I haven't even started HRT yet. I have to admit it - I am envious of you. But I am not going to let that stop me being happy for you. I will reiterate this - Congrats and have a speedy recovery.
Jocelyn 30th Jul 2016, 11:25 PM edit delete reply
Jocelyn
@Jacy Em

I hope you enjoy Xenoblade 3D. Maybe I should finally try to finish it while I'm recovering. >_>

On the therapist front though, I feel for you. Although it sounds weird now that I basically just crossed the finish line, my transition started a lot later than I would've liked it to because I too had trouble finding resources. If you haven't already checked out the site, I do recommend https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/ for finding a therapist though. Not everyone seems to have the same success, but it was helped me find a hidden gem that I never would've otherwise found on my own.

As for envy though, I don't think that's such a bad thing. Envy can be a powerful motivator. Just try to view it less like, "____ is so much farther along than I am in their transition", and more like, "I can reach the point _____ is at if I do this!" It's just a little change in perspective, but I've found that helped me out a lot. Especially, if you're like me - anxious and afraid to go out of your comfort zone - it can make a world of a difference. ^_^
Nicky 30th Jul 2016, 9:26 PM edit delete reply
I just binge-read all 861 panels (so far!) in an afternoon... and I finished here, which seems apt.

So: congratulations!

And thank you for doing what you do. :)
Ema 30th Jul 2016, 11:30 PM edit delete reply
Gratz on the surgery personally i found the first week the worst and then the first month was up and down an all over... but after 3 years post op MtF now i have days were i completely forget it ever happened :p

so i wish you a happy recovery i hope the bruising aint to bad... and also how do i get a pic in my post like others? i have a bunny named shadow (black netherland dwarf in my case) that rains keeps making me think of and was guna use as kind of a signature lol sorry i talk a lot...
Ema 30th Jul 2016, 11:33 PM edit delete reply
gah forgot to thank you for making this cominc i absolutely love it! and have sent it to many friends
so looking forward to new pages :)
Layla 31st Jul 2016, 3:28 AM edit delete reply
Hi there, I decided to give ya some fanart, since I really love your comic and characters.
http://lilyannetherose.deviantart.com/art/Rainily-625042110
M 31st Jul 2016, 7:21 AM edit delete reply
So hapy for you.
dee 31st Jul 2016, 2:23 PM edit delete reply
Congrats, Jocelyn! Here's to a speedy recovery! ❤️
Anonymoose247 7th Aug 2016, 8:54 AM edit delete reply
just finished binging the comic, congrats on getting srs. hopefully i can begin transitioning soon(just need to tell my parents....)
Debra 8th Aug 2016, 3:06 AM edit delete reply
Finally finished the series (for now)!

Great job! =) Love it and congrats on SRS. Welcome to the vag club :) Hope recovery goes well. Take it easy for a while....it does get better.
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