Comic 653 - Transgender Day of Visibility

31st Mar 2015, 1:58 PM in Special
Transgender Day of Visibility
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Jocelyn 31st Mar 2015, 1:58 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
Happy Transgender Day of Visibility, all! I decided to go all out, and wear my trans shirt, with my trans pride button, and my trans pride wristband, and waving my trans pride flag. I like to keep it subtle, you know? XD

Seriously though, I am out and proud. While passing is important to me, I don't like hiding what I am. I had to fight long and hard to be able to present the way I do. And I'm grateful to what my efforts have earned me. Today, there's not a person in my life that isn't aware that I'm a trans woman. I wouldn't want it any other way. I understand that's not for everyone, but it's the only way I can be.

Yesterday, someone asked me why any trans person would want to visible, knowing the dangers that we face. There are risks to being visible, yes. However, I've unfortunately had a lot of time to think about my mortality for the last six months while I dealt with cancer. And regardless of whether I was stealth or visible, everything would have played out the same way. It wouldn't have changed whether or not I got cancer, and it wouldn't have changed the outcome.

If you want to be stealth, that's great. Do that. As long as that's how you want to live and it will make you happy, you absolutely should do that. But likewise, I say if someone wants to be visible - risk be damned - then they should. Life is too short, and we don't know how much time we have or how we're going. That risk may never come in to play either way. As such, I believe everyone should spend their life living in a way in which they can be happy. If that means visibility, awesome! If that means stealth, awesome! Being open and visible makes me happy. And I will wave that flag with pride to the very end.

No matter how you identify and present yourself, do have a lovely day. ^_^
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Ihileath 31st Mar 2015, 9:20 PM edit delete reply
Personally I am 100% certain I will go stealth when I transition, but if someone wants to be visible they should. Absolutely be free to do so and not have to worry about their safety.
Athena N 1st Apr 2015, 5:30 AM edit delete reply
I, on the other hand, consider stealth as the post-transition version of being closeted. That is, yes, it helps a lot to be the right gender, but one is still left with a constant dread of being outed. Of course, being open about one's trans status doesn't mean one has to actively advertise it all the time, there is a whole range between that and trying to hide.

That said, I know I'm very privileged in that I haven't been seriously harassed, and also unprivileged in having a work history and a somewhat non-binary gender that make full stealth impossible. And in all this it's important to keep in mind that there's no One True Way of being trans.
Syrup 6th Apr 2015, 10:20 PM edit delete reply
i may be litterally blind for thinking this but at first that flag looked like a miniature war axe
Boo 5th Jun 2015, 4:26 PM edit delete reply
I'm in a situation similar to Athena's. That way of putting it, "the post-transition version of being closeted," rings hard for me. Secrecy has been a terrible burden for me, and being out in the light is a wonderful feeling. I don't fear being outed, nor feel like I'm imposing a burden of secrecy on my family and friends. I am grateful that I can safely do this, even if some coworkers are frustrating at times, because there are still places where it's not safe to do what I'm doing.

Oh, right. > < I'm a lurking stranger, no one here knows who I am. I'm a working class slob but also a wee bit geeky about cosmology and biology, and fascinated by some machinery, particularly aerodynes and impulse motors. I was born in the mid-1980s but took until late 2013 to come out of the closet... as a rape victim, as genderqueer (sometimes agendered, sometimes neutral, sometimes feminine) and as "anything but strait." (living in a semantically contested region between Ace, Gay/Gyn and Pan territory) The people closest to me are by big brother, sister-in-law, and a coworker who is my first friend outside my family.
Tualha 5th Jun 2015, 11:43 PM edit delete reply
Tualha
Huh. I've known I was trans for about 15 years, I've been involved with the local trans community for at least three years, and I had never heard of this holiday. Thanks for bringing it up.
Anonymous 8th Jan 2016, 8:47 AM edit delete reply
God you're absolutely beautiful
Wolfsblood 24th Jan 2016, 4:24 AM edit delete reply
I have no doubt that being stealth will be impossible for me. I'm 48, and have lived my entire life in the same town. I just want to be allowed to live my life without being hassled.
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