Comic 529 - Repressed

29th Apr 2014, 9:25 PM in Ch. 21: Valentine's Day
Repressed
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Jocelyn 29th Apr 2014, 9:25 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
I'm finding it hard to write anything else here without saying more than I should. So I'm leaving the commentary to you. Thoughts on what Rain says? On how Rudy reacts to it? On whether it fits Drew's situation?

And most importantly, thoughts on the fact that Rain just said any of that at all?


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Charlie 29th Apr 2014, 10:40 PM edit delete reply
Is this the 'quiet one talking who we need to shut up and listen to' showing here? :)

Also, is Rain saying that that's how she felt, dating Rudy, and that's why she broke up with him? I'm probably too tired to be reading comics...
Nightsky 29th Apr 2014, 11:49 PM edit delete reply
Nightsky
Actually, I'm going through this almost exactly right now. I know I'm asexual, but I'm not sure about my romantic orientation. I don't know if I'm panromantic, homoromantic... or aromantic. I have a male friend and I don't know how I feel about him. I don't know if I'm even cut out for romance.
Layn 30th Apr 2014, 5:03 PM edit delete reply
I went through the same as you. At some point i was just sick of it and decided i'll just go with panromantic and we'll see from there. It's not satisfying and i still kept wondering, but in the end it allowed me to be free to love and see what comes of it. Result: I did have some feelings for a man at some point but later fell for a woman that i'm crazy about and am now together with.
Maybe i was just lucky that panromantic was right
Nightsky 2nd May 2014, 2:04 AM edit delete reply
Nightsky
I'm going with "pan" right now, but I'm more conflicted on if I have ANY romantic orientation. I know I've had a crush on girls, but I'm not 100% sure if I've had crushes on guys. At the same time, I also can't imagine myself in a long-term relationship, so... yeah. I may be an aro-ace after all.
Florence 30th Apr 2014, 12:15 AM edit delete reply
Wait, was I seriously thinking Drew was Gavin for my past two comments? This is embarrassing...

Anyway, this is all to familiar to me. Not only was I (as an AMAB person) conditioned to only like girls, but also to only like one gender. This erasure of identity, I think, only involves the first factor for gay people, but it is twofold for bisexuals.
from a butterfly 30th Apr 2014, 1:41 AM edit delete reply
Don't you just hate, social pressures, were so determined to fit in, because if we don't we could end up alone, we build freinds and all the time deny or hide who we are. I think mostly guys pretend not to like pink, because of a 100 year old saying that pink is for girls, and I think being told things such as this somtimes make us feel as though saying we like pink is in some way saying we are a girl and not boy. And because of these extra biological gendar seperations we can end up going through very difficult times of shame and doubts about what we are when we try and accept who we are. Were even told what to wear by society, ever since I was young iv always wondered why they don't put some of the clothes I actualy liked in the male section, and in some way say I've got to choose from a load of drab :p sorry for ranting, its just that social "norms" cause us to be seen as, and even feel diferent and abnormal when we don't conform to them. When the truth is being diferent and unique, and not like anyone els is the only other thing we all have in common besides birth and death. And hopfully in time we will all have the freedom to look and dress how we like too, without feeling a need to conform to extra biological sex/genar bineries
ranger_brianna_new 30th Apr 2014, 8:17 AM edit delete reply
ranger_brianna_new
Yeah, I can strongly identify with this to some extent. I'm not exactly experienced in such matters, but I've been giving them serious thought.
GigaNerd17 1st May 2014, 12:57 AM edit delete reply
GigaNerd17
Actually, I think Drew's situation might be more akin to suggestion than repression. In the same way homosexuals are pushed towards being straight, heterosexuals can also be pushed towards being gay. I remember when I first broke away from my homophobic upbringing and really began pondering sexuality that I wondered whether I was actually straight. Now I know I certainly am.
Kyla 1st May 2014, 6:56 AM edit delete reply
As a Trans-women I have loved women all my life but here in the last few years i have been confused with feelings, Some times i think a guy is hot but not in a sexual way, just that he looks really cute .... =/ I'm not really sure how i feel. I still love women but maybe i am Bi or Pan ..IDK i'm still trying to understand myself. As of right now i am a Lesbian, well that's the label i wish to use at this time.
Guest 1st May 2014, 7:30 PM edit delete reply
One of the difficult things to deal with when it comes to sexuality is that, based on most of the research we've got, sexual orientation is less a "a, b, or c" thing (extrapolate for a large portion of the alphabet), but more of a continuum. And not even a line with "homosexual" on one end and "heterosexual" on the other, but more one of those pretty colour gradient wheels you can see, with a little bar down the side to adjust for shade. There is basically as much variety in forms of sexual identity & expression as there are people. That said, it tends to be a lot easier to talk about if we have some labels to use as guidelines. Personally, I choose not to label my sexual orientation, simply because, for me personally, it's not something I feel the need to do. (I do refer to myself as a cis woman though, as my awkward way of trying to deal with the fact that I consider myself to be in a sub-catagory of "woman" (it being a majority doesn't make it any less of a sub-category for me, nor does it make me any more or less of a woman than some of my friends who were AMAB)--& being a woman is just a subcategory of "person". That said, I know some people for whom trying to asign a label to their gender is emotionally unnecessary or uncomfortable.

Basically, this is my long-winded (& half-asleep) way of trying to say: whatever you are, you're normal. If you decide that you don't want to label yourself something, for any reason, then that's perfectly ok. If you do decide that you want to use a label for yourself, then feel free to use whatever label you feel most comfortable using. If you feel that you're a lesbian who occasionally finds men sexually appealing, or even romantically appealing, then that's what you are, and all power to you. If you end up deciding to define yourself as "lesbian-with-occationally-broader-tendencies", then I at least will make the effort to write out that full label every time without shortening it--& I know that there are plenty of people out there who will also gladly show the same respect, and be willing to fight tooth-&-nail-&-with-a-glitter-gun to help make the world a place where someday, everyone will.

So… you're awesome. That's the only label I will be applying here. You've got to be--you have axing tastes in webcomics! And you're a person. People are awesome until proven otherwise, in which case their awesome status is put on probation until they've grown enough as a person to be awesome again. Good luck!
from a butterfly 2nd May 2014, 12:06 AM edit delete reply
feels moved i couldnt say it better.
miiohau 7th Jul 2016, 6:01 AM edit delete reply
sexual orientations get complicated. I thought my college roommate was cute but only when I was female, so I thought I was bi or pan when female. But then I feel something for a guy on TV when I was definitely male so I label myself pan as male as well but even though it the same label I have two orientations because I wasn’t attracted to that roommate as male.
In the end labels are only good as their utility if it helps others to understand you good. But as far as I go you only have one (possibility complex) orientation, your own.
black_&_RAINbow 5th May 2014, 12:27 PM edit delete reply
People have been making predictions about the characters' orientations, and now I think I know Drew's. I think he is skoliosexual(attracted to non binary people). He thought he was straight until he saw Ky. He doesn't know it, but he likes a non binary person. Of course, he could also be pan. He likes one non binary, and he says he's been noticing more men recently. And he said he still liked women a little, right? I may be wrong, just thinking out loud.

jackrich 31st Jul 2015, 9:29 PM edit delete reply
Less is more, josie, love. Your writer's instincts carry you very well.
miguelsaurio 29th Nov 2015, 1:33 AM edit delete reply
This is exactly what I'm going trough right now...
I might be older (I'm in college) but this really hit close, I always thought I was straight because that's what you are meant to be, but as of lately I'm not even sure myself of what I even like.
out of all characters I definitely didn't think I would sympathize so much with Drew.
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