Comic 492 - Parenting at its Finest

9th Feb 2014, 10:58 PM in Ch. 20: Just a Quiet Weekend
Parenting at its Finest
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Jocelyn 9th Feb 2014, 10:58 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
I typed four separate blurbs here. I didn't like any of them. I have a lot I'd like to say, but I feel like there's nothing I should be saying. I really think it's Emily's job to do the talking in this case. And she talks quite a bit here.

People's reactions on Emily are quite divided lately (and I expected that), so let me ask: where do you stand? Is she being stupid or responsible? Is she being selfish or selfless? Is her conviction on this matter strength, or is it weakness? Share your thoughts, but let's maybe try to keep the flame wars to a minimum.


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j-eagle12212012 10th Feb 2014, 12:12 AM edit delete reply
j-eagle12212012
I think that she's doing the right thing. It may not be for the right reasons to some people, but i think the best reason she has is to love her child in a way that she was not.
Nightsky 10th Feb 2014, 12:40 AM edit delete reply
Nightsky
I support Emily. She's making the best of an unexpected situation, and her heart's in the right place.
Jen Done 10th Feb 2014, 5:12 AM edit delete reply
I support Emily's decision. I feel that every mother makes the choice whether they're ready to have a child, and it's not really anyone else's place to deny that to her. Whether she's a suitable parent is another matter entirely, but as for having the baby, her heart is clearly in the right place.
rachelevil 10th Feb 2014, 6:12 AM edit delete reply
I have every amount of sympathy and respect for someone trying to rise above the shittiness of their parents. I'll probably never have kids, and that's at least partially because I don't know if I can be better than my parents were, and, well... no kid deserves the hell of living with a parent like that.
DocMesa 10th Feb 2014, 3:18 PM edit delete reply
At the moment, Emily doesn't feel loved by anyone, least of all by her own mother. Will she have the financial stuff to look after a child? Doubtful. Will that child be loved? No question.
drs 10th Feb 2014, 4:40 PM edit delete reply
"The last thing I want to do is be anything like her."
Negative role models are useful; on the other hand, when you anti-imitate someone rather than imitating them, you're still defining yourself in relation to them. Is Emily making the best decision for herself and <child #1> or is she just reacting against her mother?

I'd commented before that I expected her to inherit, but the welfare line sounds like either her mother isn't all that rich or she'd be mean enough to disown Emily. So, raising a kid as a poor single 18yo mother, in today's economy, and a hostile grandmother? I'd say abort. She can love her next child just as much, without it being a struggle to survive.
drs 10th Feb 2014, 7:53 PM edit delete reply
You sometimes hear about teen mothers who supposedly had a baby so as to have someone to love, or someone who would love them. Emily hasn't said that, but she seems at risk for such thought: absent father, negligent mother, apparently few and new real friends. She's almost screaming subtext of "I won't reject this child, the way my mother rejected me!" even though a purely scientific basis, her 'child' is a semi-developed blob with less awareness than the fish she might have had for dinner, and not in a positiont to feel any rejection. (There's different religious views... but given that Emily seems to be discussing abortion as a possible option she's rejecting, rather than simply being beyond the pale, I'm not sure those are in play here.)

Also... is she so unlike her mother? Why *didn't* her mother abort her if she was unplanned and unwanted? That would have been in the 1990s, she almost certainly had the option. Maybe she had romantic ideas too, before souring with experience. Maybe Emily will be different, or maybe this is how dysfunctional families reproduce themselves: lonely teen has a baby, gets resentful and neglectful from the stress and limitations, raising another lonely teen who has a baby...
Marlee-The-Creator 11th Feb 2014, 6:49 AM edit delete reply
Marlee-The-Creator
If you're playing Devil's Advocate, you're missing a side you almost touched: What if her mother's family were super religious? What if she were forced to keep the baby by everyone in her family? She made a mistake and she was upset about it, wanted to abort her baby so she could continue with her life and her parents forced her to keep it because it was the (with any respect where it should be given) "Lord's will" and she resented her parents because of it? So she had Emily, but she hated her parents for it. She didn't want Emily so she rejected her. Maybe she didn't choose to have her.
ranger_brianna_new 11th Feb 2014, 6:45 AM edit delete reply
ranger_brianna_new
Perhaps her reasoning may be a bit selfish, but that doesn't make it wrong. Lots of the best things in life come from being a little bit selfish.

It's going to be hard. It's going to be tough. But that little selfish act is in fact one of the most selfless things she could do. And I can tell...it's going to be worth it.

Soyeah. I think she did the right thing.
Jude P. 11th Feb 2014, 11:54 AM edit delete reply
Dunno if she's being selfish or whatever, but I consider it irresponsible to have a kid when you can't even support yourself yet, let alone the kid.

Also, sorry to point it out, but that should be "parenting at its finest" in the third panel. No apostrophe for a possessive its.
Tualha 4th Jun 2015, 7:53 AM edit delete reply
Tualha
I think Emily is acting like an adult. She decided what she wants to do, she knows it will be hard, but she's prepared to deal with the consequences of her choice, she's taking responsibility for it, and she doesn't expect anyone to bail her out.

Basically the same thought process that led me to conclude that, in spite of her age, Nanoka in Koi Kaze is an adult.

Getting back to Emily, I don't think it's a very wise choice, given her circumstances, but I definitely support her right to choose her own path in life.
Ruth 13th Aug 2016, 3:57 PM edit delete reply
Huge round applause for Emily. Even if she wasn't pregnant, her attitude shows that she's no longer a girl, but now is a young woman.
Some Ed 15th Jun 2017, 12:58 AM edit delete reply
I think it's too soon to determine whether she is responsible or not. Responsible is a matter of actions, all we have now are words. But she does sound like an adult here.

For her to be a responsible mother, if her own mother isn't planning on helping out financially, her first concern is to line up financial support and care. Befriending Fara might well be a step in that direction. Since she's so close, definitely finishing her senior year and getting her degree, but maybe she should look for part time work. Even if she does get some financial help from others, contributing what she can could make that go over much better with those supporting her.

She should *not* engage in any part time work that could cost her degree, until she gets her degree. A GED may supposedly be 'equivalent', but if it is, it's equivalent to a degree from the crappiest accredited high school ever. If she wants to try stripping or cam whoring, that should wait until after graduation. Given her mother, she could probably get more money by telling her mother she wouldn't be above stripping or cam whoring if her mother doesn't assist enough.
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