Comic 4 - Prologue 3

30th Nov 2010, 6:05 PM in Ch 1: The New Girl
Prologue 3
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Jocelyn 30th Nov 2010, 6:05 PM edit delete
Jocelyn
Oh, good god! A splash page? Already? Don’t worry, there aren’t a lot of these (most pages in fact have quite a bit packed into them). In fact, aside from the chapter intro pages, this is technically the only one. I tend to find this to be cheap so I’d like to not make a habit of splashes like this.

But onto the relevant subject matter! Who’s up for a little debate? Let’s get a little controversial here, shall we? :XD:

How do you feel about the response Ryan’s mother gave to her 4-year old child? Was she too hard on the kid? Do you think maybe she should have just humored him, especially since she herself just believes it’s a phase? Or did she really do the best she could given the situation? If you were a parent and your very small child came to you and said what Ryan said, how would you respond? What is the right answer… if there is one?

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LauraEss 5th Oct 2011, 12:34 PM edit delete reply
LauraEss
Today while I was tired and waiting for the bus home, a child kept on screaming "I want to die". Didn't know what the issue was but she kept it up for 25 minutes.

Often people mistake deep desires for tantrums.
TheAlmightyJ 28th Jan 2012, 4:29 PM edit delete reply
Um... They shouldn't have laughed.
tyson 3rd Dec 2013, 10:50 PM edit delete reply
The art is pretty mundane and needs a lot of work but I really like how this started off, as a trans person I know what the little kid feels like only it never went away in only a couple days.
Lex-Kat 9th Mar 2015, 6:19 AM edit delete reply
I don't think the mom handled it wrong. I don't think she realized that Ryan truly knows what it is he is asking for.

And the mom didn't laugh. She just tried to explain the "facts" as she knows them. "Only girls can be mommies."
Lex-Kat 19th Oct 2016, 11:49 AM edit delete reply
Lex-Kat
How do you feel about the response Ryan's mother gave to her 4-year old child? It was a typical response, as far as I can tell. And some children do just go through phases where they like playing with different toys. I went through a phase where I liked everything my sister liked, hated what she hated, wanted to do everything she wanted to do. I know now, that it wasn't just a phase, that I wasn't just imitating her, but emulating her. I wanted to be her (though, not take over her, obviously. Not a body snatcher. :p ).

Was she too hard on the kid? Nah. She didn't laugh, like her brother. I agree with past me on this.

Do you think maybe she should have just humored him, especially since she herself just believes it’s a phase? Maybe a little. But I understand why she didn't. Likely, like my mom, she didn't realize or know that transsexualism was even a thing. I'm watching old teevee shows, and it's amazing to see how many had an episode on transgender issues in the 70s and 80s. And two so far, didn't ridicule or demean the transwoman.

Or did she really do the best she could given the situation? Yes. Given what she knew at the time, and how she understands the world, yes.

If you were a parent and your very small child came to you and said what Ryan said, how would you respond? I would ask him why he wanted to be a mommy and not a daddy. Other than that, it's hard to say. I would have told brother to stop laughing though and given little Ryan a hug.

What is the right answer… if there is one? She should go in and talk to Ryan. Let him know she is there for him, not alone.

And I use him, right now, because to me his future is uncertain at this time (though yes, I know he becomes Rain. But at this time, he's still Ryan.).
Transginger 7th Mar 2016, 8:04 PM edit delete reply
Also, to be fair, social values in the past were vastly different. So back in the 90s, early 2000s, the statement "only girls can be mommies" wasn't entirely inaccurate. Same-sex parents STILL have a hard time adopting. And those lucky enough to find a surrogate have to jump through numerous hoops. Now everyone can be a mommy, and it's wonderful.
Some Ed 10th Jun 2017, 4:02 AM edit delete reply
When I was around that age, I answered that question in the same way once. And my mom laughed along with my brothers.

I do feel that both my mother and Rain's mother should've been more understanding. Not feign support because it's presumed a phase, but to show support as part of loving the child they claimed to love on a regular basis. (At least, I assume Rain's mother did that. I don't know of any transsexuals who tried coming out to their parents at such a young age without purportedly supportive parents.)

If I were a parent in the 70s when I was a kid, I'd like to think that I'd have accepted the answer, but explained why it did not seem possible and what was possible. (Even in the 70s, it was possible to have a career wife and be a stay at home dad. Which, at the time I made that statement, was what I thought I'd said. Not that it was what I wanted, but life's a lot more complicated than I can understand now, let alone when I was a little kid.)
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